Ukuqala kwam ukuthandana kwi-Intanethi, ndandineminyaka engama-25, kwaye ndandisandula ukufudukela eLa ndandingenalo iqela lomhlobo elisekwe kwaye ndingazi ukuba ndingahlangana njani nabantu abangaphandle komsebenzi okanye imeko yam yokuhlala ngesimo se-frat-house. I-LA yayihlala esihogweni sayo kubantu abangatshatanga, ngenxa yoko ndacinga ukuba ndinganika enye yeendawo (zasimahla) ukuba ndiye kubona ukuba kwenzeke ntoni.
Ndenze into eyenziwa ngumntu wonke; Ndithathele ingqalelo ukukhanya kwephrofayili yam yomfanekiso, ukufota, ukuma kwamehlo, ubungakanani bamazinyo aboniswayo, njl.njl. Okubaluleke ngakumbi, ndigxininise eyinyani kodwa eqhelekileyo ngakumbi / engeyiyo geeky yeempawu zobuntu bam.
Akukho mntu wandixelela ukuba ndenze le nto; Ndiyenzile nje. Xa ndijonga ngasemva, ndiye ndabona ukuthambisa imiba ethile yam yinto endiyenzileyo phantse kuyo yonke imihla endakhe ndangena kuyo kwiminyaka ye-20, nokuba ndidibene nalo mfana ku okanye ngaphandle kweintanethi. Ndivulelekile malunga nendlela endithanda ngayo ukuthetha ngezopolitiko kodwa ndagcina amandla am okucaphula iziqendu zonke ze Firefly zifihliwe. Ndidwelise uncwadi lweklasikhi kwiincwadi zam endizithandayo, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo khange ndithethe Idabi leenkwenkwezi okanye inyani yokuba ndingathetha i-ad nauseum malunga neMara Jade kunye neNdawo eYandisiweyo.
Ukuqikelela, akukho nto ininzi yavela ngelo xesha, kwaye emva kweeveki ezimbalwa, ndonwabile ndaqala ukubutyeshela ubukho beprofayile yam ekwi-intanethi. Iminyaka emihlanu ihambile, njengobuhlobo obufutshane kunye nokufutshane nje kwiTindr. Ngesiquphe, ndaphinda ndangena kwimeko yokuthandana ngobulumko, kwaye… ungabona apho kuya khona.
Olona tshintsho lukhulu lwenzekileyo ngelixesha ndijika i-30 ndiyekile ukukhathalela ukuba abanye abantu bacinga ntoni ngam okanye ubukrakra bam, ke xa ndigcwalisa ezo profiles zintle ze-Intanethi okwesibini, ndenza isigqibo sokuba ndibeke okwam okwenyani gaphandle phaya. Ndiyiphendule yonke imibuzo ebubudenge yemibuzo ngokunyaniseka kangangoko kunokwenzeka, ndithathe imifanekiso ebonisa uluhlu lwam lobuso obungaqhelekanga kunye nelifa leDisneyland Pass yonyaka, kwaye bendinyanisekile ngezinto endizithandayo. Ngokusisiseko, ndiyithumele iflegi ye-nerd.
Kwaye kwaqala ukubetha.
Ukuba unjalo Idabi leenkwenkwezi fan, ndixelele ukuba ngowuphi umgca wokuqala Ithemba elitsha ?
Uthi uyingqushu, kodwa ngaba ngokwenene? ;)
Ungumlandeli kaNeil Gaiman, kodwa jonga nje, phendula ezi zintsingiselo zintathu.
Nantso ke. Kukho esona sizathu sokuba ndizifihle ndingazi nto xa ndandisemncinci.
Ukucacisa, andinangxaki nesikhephe esinyanzelekileyo ngamanye amaxesha sendlela onomdla ngayo / ovalo / onomdla ngayo entsha Idabi leenkwenkwezi imuvi? okanye ucinga ukuba le ncwadi kaNeil Gaiman ithelekiswa njani no-Oeuvre kaTerry Pratchett? umbuzo. NDITHANDA ukuthetha ngokutsha Idabi leenkwenkwezi bhanyabhanya, kwaye kuthatha kancinci kakhulu ukukhuthaza ukuba ndiye kwi-tangent malunga Oothixo baseMelika .
Ukubuzwa imibuzo kwinto esele ndikuxelele ukuba ndiyayithanda, nangona kunjalo, akukuthandi kum nokuba zingaphi ii-emoticons ozibekayo. Kuyanyelisa kwaye kuya kuhlala kufaneleka ukucima ngokuzenzekelayo. Ukuba uluhlobo lomntu onomdla wokuqala kukundivavanya ekukhathazekeni kwam, andinguye lo mntu umfunayo.
Nanku umyalezo wam ubuyile: Yiyo le nto ungenayo intombi.
Andikukhabi ngelixa uphantsi; Ndiyathetha oku njengengcebiso yokwenyani. Nam, ndikhangela umntu othanda izinto ze-nerdy. Ayisiyiyo kuphela into endiyifunayo, kodwa ubuncinci bokuvula ingqondo evulekileyo malunga neentlobo ezahlukeneyo zemidiya yinto eqinisekileyo. Ngokusisiseko, mhlawumbi ndingoluhlobo lwentombazana oyifunayo, kodwa awusoze undifumane ndineso simo sengqondo.
Kungenzeka ukuba kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, ekholejini, nakubomi babantu abadala, indlela abanye abakujonga ngayo ichazwe yinto abayibonayo: i-nerd. Ndiqinisekile ukuba ibibuhlungu kwaye ikwenze waziva ungaphantsi kunakuqala. Akukho mntu ufanele oko, kodwa isizathu sokuba ndiqonde kukuba nam ndandingulomntwana. Kwisikolo samabanga aphakathi, ndiyintombazana ekhubazekileyo eneglasi kunye nebrace ezazisitya iinwele zakhe ngasemva kweklasi. Ndikhule ndizenza ezinye zezo zinto (yitya intliziyo yakho kuThomas Jefferson Middle School ofunda nabo), kodwa loo ntombazana inamathela kum kwaye ibala umbono wam wehlabathi.
Nantsi ingxaki. Indlela ondijonga ngayo ngoku ichazwa kuphela yile nto uyibonayo: intombazana. Kuwe, andinakuba sisidenge sokwenyani ngenxa yento ephakathi kwemilenze yam okanye kuba ndinxiba izithambiso kwimifanekiso yam emibini. Luhlobo olo lokukhetha olugcina abantu basetyhini ngaphandle kwevenkile ezihlekisayo kunye nakwiindibano. Ayisiyo-stereotype ye-cosplay yobu-slutty kuphela, kukwahlukana nokuhamba uye kuluntu olubanga ukuba lufuna ukwamkelwa emva koko lwala ukungena kumalungu anokubakho ngokwesini.
I-Intanethi, eyoyikisayo njengecesspool, yayiyinto efihliweyo-ukuba isenengxaki-indawo ekhuselekileyo ye-nerds yabasetyhini okwethutyana. Khange sizive samkelekile kwiindawo eziqhelekileyo ze-geeky, ke siye kwiwebhu apho unokuthi ungaziwa kwaye uzifihle emva kwesiphatho esingathathi cala ngokwesini. Xa ulilady nerd kwaye ubhengeza uthando lwakho lwento ye-geeky, naziphi na izimvo ezingavumelaniyo ne-canon zibonwa njengemveliso yeetits zakho. Xa uyindoda kwaye ungayithandi into kwindalo ethandwayo, ubonwa njengengcali efuna nje ngcono kwinto oyithandayo.
Ke, thina bafazi singcwatyelwe kwiimfandom zombane, siqinisekile kubunikazi bethu obungachazwanga ukusikhusela ekugwetyweni. Emva koko kweza i-Facebook kunye ne-Twitter, kwaye i-Intanethi yaba yintlalontle ngendlela entsha kraca. Ubuhle bayo kukuba bangaphi kuthi abanokuthi ekugqibeleni bangene ekukhanyeni, baxhawulane, kwaye benze imibono yethu kunye namava. Okubi kukuba iintlobo ezithile zamadoda zazilapho, nazo, zikulungele ukwenza imibuzo, zibuze, kwaye zisenze sizive singalunganga ngokuthanda into esiyithandayo.
Ndidibene nabafana abathandekayo abachonga iigeeks, dweebs, nerds, okanye fanboys, nabaye bathetha nam njengomntu kuqala. Yonke into endiyicelayo kukuba ucinga ngomyalezo owuthumelayo xa usondela emfazini nokuba kungenxa yezizathu zothando okanye zobuhlobo. Ngokubuza eyona nto inokuba ikutsalile kuye, wonakalisa naliphi na ithuba lokufumanisa ukuba anganomdla kuwe na umntu hayi kuwe kuphela.
Enye into yokucinga: Ndiyintombazana enikezelweyo kwaye ndigqibile, kodwa nokuba yinto eqhelekileyo Idabi leenkwenkwezi fan ibandakanya iimuvi eziphantsi kweefayi zakhe, ngekhe wayenza kuba ethanda abafana be-nerdy. Usenokuba uzibandeza umntu omnandi, odlamkileyo, onobubele okhangela umntu ofana nawe ngenxa nje yokuba engayazi impendulo kwimibuzo yakho yobudenge. Uyazenzakalisa kule meko. Sele ndicime umyalezo wakho.
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