I-BoJack Horseman ihambisa uMmelo oluBucala oluFunekayo

Kuphakathi kobusuku, kwaye ndigqibile ukuzinkcinkca ngotywala ndibukele lonke ixesha lesithathu le UBoJack Horseman . Ndime esofeni yam, ndanga amadolo am, njengoko iinyembezi zisihla ebusweni bam. Ndineentloni kancinci ukuyivuma, kodwa ayisiyiyo imeko engaqhelekanga. Ngapha koko, ndandisenza into efanayo malunga neenyanga ezilishumi elinambini ngaphambili, kwaye kwakhona (okokuqala) malunga neminyaka emibini ngaphambili.

Ndicinga into endizama ukuyithetha yile:

1. Ngokucacileyo, ndifumana indlela yokutyala imali ngokweemvakalelo kwiikhathuni malunga nezilwanyana ze-anthropomorphic.
2. UBoJack Horseman indenza ndihlale ndilila ngokungafaniyo nomnye umboniso.

Kodwa iinyembezi ezazingcolise izidlele zam ngeli xesha zahlukile kunezinye. Ayengomphumo nje womboniso we-crescendo yeemvakalelo (ehlala ibetha kwisenzo sokugqibela sesiqendu sokugqibela ngaphambi kokuba ichithekele kwithemba elikhethekileyo kwithemba lokugqibela lesizini). Endaweni yoko, zazibangelwa ngumdibaniso womothuko, uloyiko, kunye nemvakalelo yokudideka… yokukhululeka? Ukwamkela? Ndizabalazile ukufumana amagama okuchaza iimvakalelo zam. Into endiyaziyo kukuba umlinganiswa kwenye yemiboniso yam endiyithandayo usandula ukuphuma njenge-asexual, nanjengomntu we-ace, mna, ibindenza ndizive zininzi izinto ezahlukeneyo.

Kwaye ngelixa ndingowokuqala ukwamkela ukuba ukumelwa yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kum (emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ndenzile bhala malunga nendlela umntu wokuqala awandinceda ngayo ndafumanisa ubungqingili bam ), yayingeso sizathu sokuba ndizive ndonganyelwe. Endaweni yoko, yayindimangalisile indlela ebonakaliswe ngayo. Kwawona magama asetyenziswayo nguT Todd ukuchaza isini sakhe (okanye ukusilela kwayo) aphuncule kwimilebe yam, ngokuchanekileyo ngegama, ngaphezulu kwesihlandlo esinye. Ukunganeli nje ukubonwa kwam okungacacanga kubonisiwe kumboniso ophambili, kodwa nokuba ndibonakalise ngokuchanekileyo amava am, bekungekho nto iphazamisayo engqondweni.

Ndiqala ukukrokrela ukuba uTodd wayedlala ngesondo kwisiqendu sesibini sexesha lesithathu, ngexesha lokubuyela umva kunxibelelwano awayenalo xa wayesemncinci. Emva kokubuzwa ukuba ngubani amthandayo kwaye ephendula, ‘akukho mntu,’ umhlobo wakhe, uEmily wamtyhala wade ekugqibeleni, kwaye endaweni yokungathandabuzi, watsho igama lentombazana ethandwayo. Yibize ngokuba yi-asexual intuition (okanye kunokwenzeka ukuba ube nohlobo oluthile lokuqinisekisa ngenxa yam ukubamba izitro), kodwa into malunga nokuphendula kukaTodd yandihlangabeza. Ngokukodwa, indibuyisele ezicathulweni zam zokufikisa, apho ukusinda kwam ekuhlaleni bekuphantse kwamiselwa ngokupheleleyo kukukwazi kwam ukufumana ukuba ngubani na omnye umntu otyhafileyo kunye nokuchaza loo mpendulo. Uyazi, kunokuba ngokwenene Ukufumana into yasemzini ebizwa ngokuba ngumtsalane ngokwam.

Esi siqendu siqhubekile sibuyelela kubudlelwane obusasazekayo bukaT Todd kunye nalo mhlobo kwaye kwabonakala ngathi siqhubekeka sinikezela kwingxaki yakhe ngokubanzi ejikeleze umtsalane wesini kunye nemisebenzi ehambelana nayo. Ekuqaleni, oku kwaboniswa nje ngokuba uTodd engenamava (ngexesha lomdlalo wemizuzu esixhenxe ezulwini wavuma kuEmily ukuba akazange amange umntu). Kodwa xa, emva kweenyanga ezininzi bethandana, uEmily ekugqibeleni wathetha ngesihloko sokuba babelane ngesondo impendulo yakhe yayibonakala ngathi yeyokudideka okunzulu kunye noloyiko olubi. Ubunzima bokuhlangana kwakhe ngelishwa, yinto endiyifumene ukuba inokwazeka.

Ngaphandle kwamayelenqe am, ndikhawuleze ndalususa olo luvo lokuqhelana. Ngesiqendu esilandelayo, ibali likaTodd labuyela kwelinye elalilawulwa zii-kooky hijinks, kwaye le ilandelayo (isiqendu esithule kakhulu esithuleyo Intlanzi ephuma emanzini) samshiya kwaphela. Yiyo loo nto, xa u-Emily wale mihla esenza isimanga ukuvela kwakhona kwisiqendu sesihlanu, ndandinomdla wokubona ukuba ikhona enye into eza kuphinda ihlangane nam.

Kwaye yakwenza oko.

Ukungakwazi kukaTodd ukuqonda ukuba uEmily wayebetha kuye 'ngokungakhathali' ebonisa ukuba wayenentombi ebuyise iinkumbulo ezininzi ezingathandekiyo zokuba ndilahlekile iindlela zokuziphatha ekuye kwafuneka ndimise ixesha ukuze ndigqithe isandla sam sesibini. iintloni. Kwangokunjalo, ndafumanisa ukungonwabi kukaTodd xa uEmily esenza ukuba iinjongo zakhe zicace ukuba zibuhlungu (ngakumbi xa zidityaniswa nokukhulelwa okungalunganga kukaBoJack, nangona bekukho ngenjongo entle, inkuthazo). Kwaye nangona mna ndingakwazi ukusela, noTodd waguqukela etywaleni njengendlela yokulwa nokungonwabi kwakhe kwakuqhelekile — ndinabahlobo abaninzi abathi, ngaphambi kokufumanisa ubungqingili babo, baxhomekeka etywaleni okanye kwiziyobisi ukubanceda 'bakhulule' ngethemba lokuziva ungonwabanga kwiimeko zesondo.

Kodwa ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na into, eyona ndawo yandixhalabisa kakhulu kuxa uEmily noTodd babemile phambi kwegumbi lakhe lehotele, kuye kuphela ukuba aqonde ukuba akanakumngenisa. Yonke into malunga naloo ndawo yathetha namava am. ; uloyiko olwandayo kunye nokudideka, uluhlu lwezizathu ezingenangqondo, kwaye okokugqibela loo mzuzu apho umntu ebeka iinyawo zakhe phantsi kwaye aphele ekhathaza umntu omkhathaleleyo. Ndikhe ndakhona, kwaye ndicinga ukuba ezinye ii-asexuals zinazo, nazo.

Kwaye kanye loo ndawo apho, xa idityaniswa kunye nolwazi oluqokelelekileyo kwisiqendu sokugqibela, ubuchule kunye nokuqonda komdali weBoJack, uRaphael Bob-Waksberg, kunye neqela lakhe elibonisa imeko. Umntu oza kuma kwimeko yokuba kwi-asexual spectrum ayisiyiyo amava anqamlezileyo anqunyelwe kuphela kumntu lowo; ichaphazela nabo babangqongileyo. Kwaye ke, ngokubonisa omabini amacala ebali, ibolekise ukubonakaliswa kobunzima obuninzi, ekugqibeleni ikwenza ukuba ibe yinyani.

Ngapha koko, xa zaziswa ngabo bobabini abalinganiswa ukusabela kukaTodd, uEmily wandibetha ngakumbi. Kuba, ngethuba ndingazange ndibe kwisikhundla sikaEmily, ndiye ndenza izizathu, kwaye ekugqibeleni, ndivale umnyango. Ndiyazi ukuba kunjani ukwenzakalisa umntu ngaphandle kwenjongo ngaloo ndlela, kodwa ndinokucinga nje ukuba kufanele ukuba kube kukudideka kwaye kukucaphukisa njani ukuzifumana ngokwakho. Kungenxa yoko le nto, ngaphandle kweenyembezi zindiluma amehlo ngelixa ikhamera ibambelele kuTodd owayedakumbile eyedwa ebhedini yakhe, yayiyimpendulo kaEmily eyavula iingcango. Ngenxa yale nto, ndazixela kwangaphambili inyathelo elilandelayo likaEmily, kwaye ngelixa ngokungavakaliyo ndalikhupha igama elithi 'hayi' xa esondela eBoJack ebharini, ndandisazi ukuba ukulala kunye kwakungaphepheki.

Nangona ngokucacileyo kukhanyiswe ngesibane, asifumani siqinisekiso setryst ukuzama ezinye iziqendu ezibini. Kwaye ngelixa intsebenzo kaTodd noBoJack ihlala ihleli iyonwabile kwaye iyonwabile njengangaphambili, njengelungu labaphulaphuli andinakukunceda kodwa ndizive ndisoyika. Kwakungekho okokuqala ndiziva ngathi ndiyimfihlo yokufihla uBoJack, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo kwakuziva ngathi kukubi.

Ndayifaka engqondweni yam ukuba ndizame ukubeka umnwe wam ekubeni kutheni oko, kuphela ukuqonda ukuba ndandizicombulula kakhulu ezam iingxaki. Ndithathe inyathelo ndabuya ndazikhumbuza ukuba zonke iingcinga zam malunga noTodd zazingeyonto engaphaya koko. Ndiyathetha, ayenjani amathuba omnye weyona miboniso ibaluleke kakhulu kwaye ethandwayo ngokubanzi kule minyaka imbalwa idlulileyo ine-canon asexual? Ndikhawuleze ndahamba nembali kaTodd kumaxesha okuqala kunye amabini, kwaye ngelixa ndifumene iimeko ezixhasa i-headcanon yam, banokuchazwa ngokulinganayo ngezinye izinto. Eyona nkcazo icace gca yeyokuba uTodd wayeyintandane (ekuthiwa, makhe sijamelane nayo, iya kuba ngumgaqo ocekeceke ngakumbi womboniso odumileyo).

Kwaye ke, ndiqhubekile nexesha lonyaka, ndizama ukuzikhwebula kumava am kunye neemvakalelo, kodwa andinakukwazi ukushukumisa loo mvakalelo yolwazi. Ngokukodwa, yaphakamisa intloko kwakhona xa uTodd wafumanisa ubunyani bento eyenzekileyo kwaye ngomsindo wajongana noBoJack. Ukwehliswa kwakhe okukhohlisayo kwakubonakala kungaphandle komlingiswa, ukanti, kwakuhambelana neemvakalelo zam eziphakamileyo. Ngendlela efanayo yokuba ndifumene oku kukungcatsha kukaBoJack, uTodd naye wenza njalo. Umahluko phakathi kwale mpendulo kunye nokuphendula kwakhe (ngokungathandabuzekiyo kakhulu) sabotage ye-rock opera yakhe yayihlaba. Kwaye ngelixa inokuthi ichazwe kude ngokuba sisiphumo esongezelekayo-umququ owagqobhoza umqolo wenkamela-andikwazi ukuzibamba ndayibopha ndayibuyisela ku-Texd's asexuality.

Okokuqala, nangona wayesazi ukuba uEmily wayelishiyile ishishini labo ngenxa ye-BoJack, inyani yokuba u-Todd wayengakhange ayithathele ingqalelo into yokuba isizathu kungenxa yokuba babelala kunye (ngaphandle kokuba uEmily wayenza yacaca gca) yaba yinyani. Ndiyazi ukuba andinakuthetha ngabo bonke abantu abathandana nabo, kodwa ndizibonele ngokwam ukuba xa ungafumani kutsala ngokwesondo, ngamanye amaxesha kulula ukuyithathela ingqalelo impembelelo yayo kwabanye abantu. Ayisiyongcinga nje ethi ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokukhululekileyo ivele engqondweni. Kwaye ndicinga ukuba ngokuchanekileyo yayikukothuka ngequbuliso okwenza ukuba kubenzima ngakumbi kuT Todd kwaye kwabangela ukuba aphume ngakumbi.

Ngexesha elazama ukunika uT Todd i-arc echazwe ngakumbi, kunokuba ibe luthotho lweendlela ezingalunganga, impikiswano noBoJack yayilixesha elibalulekileyo lomlinganiswa. Kwaye kunjalo, ikwayiloo arc inye eyenza ukuba amazwi akhe abonakale ekhohlakele kwaye enohanahaniso. Ngaba u-Todd wayenokugxeka ngokwenene uBoJack ngokuba ngumntu ococekileyo kwixesha elimbonile kakhulu? Nanjengomntu owayenokuvelana naye, ndaqonda ukuba impatho kaTodd kaEmily yayingaphantsi. Ungasathethi ke ngokutshabalalisa ngokupheleleyo ishishini lakhe eliyimpumelelo ngokuguqula isisombululo esiqhekekileyo ukuya kwingxaki yezentlalo eyoyikisayo (abasetyhini bahlukunyezwa ngesabelo sokukhwela / abaqhubi beeteksi) kwinto eqhubela phambili kwa le ngxaki ibizama ukuyisombulula. Kwaye ngelixa unobangela wolu tshintsho unokuchwethezwa ukuze ube yinxalenye yokuseta kwenye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo ezakhiwe kwimbali kamabonwakude, ekugqibeleni yabonisa ukuba uTodd wayezizithulu kwaye ezitshabalalisa njengo-BoJack.

Kwaye ngelixa sijonga ngasemva, uninzi lwabantu lwalubonakala ngathi lucinga ukuba indlela awasabela ngayo uTodd yayingenabulungisa ngakumbi ngokutyhila ubungqingili bakhe, kum yayenza ingqiqo ngakumbi. Ndiye ndabona abantu abaninzi bebuza ukuba kutheni uTodd enokukhathalela malunga noBoJack elala noEmily ukuba wayengenayo injongo yokulala naye, kwaye ngelixa ndivuma ukuba imeko enzima, yinto eqhelekileyo. Okokuqala, ngelixa u-Todd wayenqabile ukwala u-Emily, u-BoJack wayengenalo uluvo lokuziphatha kwakhe ngokwesondo, ngenxa yoko yayisisenzo sokuhamba. Okwesibini, ngelixa u-Todd enokuba engenawo kwaphela umnqweno wokulala no-Emily, oko akuthethi ukuba wayengenazimvakalelo ngaye. Okwangoku asazi ukuba u-Todd ukwayinukisa (akaziva enomtsalane wothando), kodwa ukuba akakho, ngewayengasenazo iimvakalelo ezinamandla kuye. Kwaye, ivela kumntu okhoyo Zombini i-asexual kunye ne-aromantic, nokuba wayengenazo iimvakalelo zothando kuye, wayesenokuziva engcatshiwe zizenzo zikaBoJack.

Ngapha koko, yimeko yokugqibela enxibelelana nam kakhulu (ngokungathandabuzekiyo kuba yeyona nto ibonakalisa amava am). Ngenxa yokuba u-Todd ebonakaliswa njengomntu oqala ukwamkela kwaye ahambelane nobungqingili bakhe, iya kuba sengqiqweni into yokuba usenokudideka kakhulu ziimvakalelo zakhe (okanye ukusilela kwayo). Kwaye, kumava am, ndiyazi ukuba olo dideko lunokukhokelela njani kwiingcinga ezingalunganga kunye nokuzicekisa. UTodd wayekhathalele ngokucacileyo ngoEmily, kodwa wayeyazi ukuba akanakumnika le nto ayifunayo. Ke emva kokuba iBoJack ingena ngaphakathi kwaye imnika into inye uTodd akakwazi, kuyaqondakala ukuba kutheni enokuziva engcatshiwe.

Ngokuchasene nenkolelo edumileyo, nanjengomntu onamakhwenkwe kunye ne-asexual, ndisenawo amandla okubakhathalela ngokunzulu abantu. Kwaye ndiyazi ukuba kunjani ukuziva ngathi awusoze ubonele. Ngenxa yale nto, indlela asabela ngayo uTodd yaba sengqiqweni. Undibethile njengayo yonke into enomsindo ngaye njengoko wayenguBoJack. Kwaye, ngabom okanye akunjalo, leyo yindlela ebuhlungu yokwenyani yokubonisa umntu eza kulungelelaniswa nobungqingili babo.

Yiyo le nto ndingakhange ndothuke yindlela iqela elikhethe ukubonisa ngayo ukuphuma kuka Todd. Ngelixa abalinganiswa abaninzi bezibuza ngokuvakalayo (okanye ebuza ngokungqalileyo) ukuba wayeyintombazana enokuthi ibonwe njengesixhobo sokuphakamisa ukujija, yayiyimbonakalo yokwenyani yoluntu olusokolayo ukubona nantoni na engaphaya ngqo kwaye ingathanga ngqo. Kwaye ngokunjalo, yayiyimpendulo kaTodd (ethi, njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, iphantse yafana nohlobo lwento endiyithethileyo ngaphambi kokuqonda ubungqingili bam):

Andilo gay. Ndiyathetha, andicingi ukuba ndinjalo, kodwa… andicingi ukuba ndithe tye, nokuba. Andazi ukuba ndiyintoni. Ndicinga ukuba andinakuba yinto.

Kodwa into endiyifumene yeyona nto ibalaseleyo yayingekuphela kokuphendula okumangalisayo kuka-Emily ekwamkelweni kukaTodd (ukuba nje sonke sinokuba noEmily ebomini bethu) kodwa indlela umboniso ngokwawo ophathe ngayo ukutyhila ngathi bekungekho nto inkulu. Umzuzu omnye umlinganiswa wayesenza oku kwamkelwa ngokwasemphefumlweni, ngokulandelayo sasisembindini weTodd caper yeklasikhi. Esi yayingesiqendu esikhetheke kakhulu sokujonga nokuxhaphaza isihloko esineqhosha lokufumana amanqaku; esi yayisisiqendu nje esinye. Kwangokunjalo, ngokuvumela abaphulaphuli ukuba bamazi uTodd phantse amaxesha amathathu apheleleyo ngaphambi kokungenisa ubungqingili bakhe, kwamtshintsha kwaba ngumlingiswa we-asexual ukuya kumlinganiswa okwenzeka ukuba ube li-asexual. Kwilizwe apho nayiphi na imbonakalo yeengxelo eziqhubekayo zenkqubela phambili zihlala zigxekwa njengokubhengeza okanye ukubonakalisa, u-Todd utyhila ukuba uziva ngathi kukuqhubela phambili kwendalo komntu osele emiselwe.

Ewe, ukuqhubela phambili, kusekho indawo eninzi yokuphonononga ubungqingili bukaTodd, kwaye oko kuza nokubakho kweempendulo ezingaphantsi kokufanelekileyo. Ndinomdla ngokukodwa kwimpendulo kaBoJack kuba, njengomntu owaziwayo ezininzi zeentlobo zeBoJack ebomini bam, ndiyazi ukuba kunzima kangakanani into efana nomntu ongafumani kutsala ngokwesondo kunokuba abanye abantu bayiqonde. Ndicinga ukuba umntu ofana noBoJack, ovuma ukuba ulala ngesondo ukuze azalisekise isidingo esinzulu sokunxibelelana nehlabathi ngokubanzi xa evuma ukuba ulele noEmily, uya kuyifumana into yokuba akunakwenzeka. Kwaye inyani yokuba u-Todd ngokuyintloko yi-BoJack's antithesis yesondo sisihlomelo esithandekayo kubudlelwane obusele bunobunzima kwaye endijonge phambili ekuboneni kuphononongwa ngakumbi.

Kuya kuba lunomdla ukubona ukuba umboniso uya kuze ulisebenzise igama elithi asexual. Ngelixa bendinolwimi ukuchonga ngokuchanekileyo into eboniswa ngabadali, abanye abaninzi ngekhe. Ndiyazi ukuba amanye amalungu oluntu lwase-asexual agxeke ukhetho lomboniso lokushiya igama. Nangona kunjalo, ndiziva ngathi ukusetyenziswa kwayo kunokuba ngathi kukungaqhelekanga okanye kunyanzelwe, kwaye kuyonakalisile. UTodd ngokucacileyo ukwinqanaba lokuqala lokuqonda kwakhe ngesini, kwaye kakhulu njengomntu wokwenene-wobomi, kusenokwenzeka ukuba akananto ingako angayiboniyo kwikota. Kutshanje udliwanondlebe no Isigqibo , UBob-Waksberg uwuphendule lo mbandela ngokuchaza, ndiyaqikelela ukuba ndiyakuthintela ukubeka ilebheli kuye ngeli xesha kuba akazukubeka ilebheli kuye.

Nangona kunjalo, ukushiywa kuye kwandenza ndazibuza ukuba (ngaba bendisahleli ebumnyameni malunga nokuziphatha kwam xa ndibukele isiqendu) ukuba bekuya kuba ngokwaneleyo kum ukuba ndizichonge. Ndinethemba lokuba, kufana nokufumanisa kwam , Ngendinxulumene nempendulo kaTodd, kwaye ngethemba lokuba, ngokuba ngumlandeli kunye nokufuna amanqaku malunga nalo mboniso ngendikhubekile kudliwanondlebe noBob-Waksberg kunye UAron Paul (Umlingisi welizwi likaT Todd) owawujongana nomcimbi. Ndiyathemba ukuba, ngokufunda loo manqaku, ngewayendichazile kwisigaba, kwaye yonke into ngeyayiwele endaweni yayo.

Kodwa ngelixa ukumelwa kwe-asexual kubalulekile ukunceda ii-aces ukuba zikwazi ukuzazisa, kukwabalulekile ukuba ubuntu kunye nokuziqhelanisa ne-non-aces, into ethi UBoJack Horseman ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo uyaphumelela. Kuvakala ngathi yinto engaqhelekanga ukukhathalela umboniso apho izilwanyana nabantu babonakaliswa belingana, kodwa andinakugxininisa indlela ekwakubaluleke ngayo kum ukuba kubo bonke abalinganiswa abakhoyo babe yi-asexual, ukuba uTodd wayengumntu. Kungenxa yokuba, ngelixa naluphi na uhlobo lokubonakaliswa kwe-asexual lunqabile, ngokwembali ezo zinto ziboniswayo zihlala zibandakanya izinto ezingezizo ezomntu ezinjengabaphambukeli neerobhothi. Kwaye kwanaxa abalinganiswa bengabantu, bahlala beboniswa benempawu zobuntu ezinje ngokuba ngababulali abaziingqondo, okanye iingcibi zokuqonda.

Ke ku-Todd-omangalisayo, ongaqhelekanga, no-Todd onesiphako-ukubonakaliswa njengomntu ongafumani kutsala ngokwesondo, kodwa abe esengumntu ngokwemvelo, yimpumelelo enkulu yokumelwa ngokwesini. Ngapha koko, yeyona kufanele ukubhiyozelwa luluntu, nokuba umboniso usebenzise elona xesha, okanye hayi. Ngubani owaziyo ukuba ixesha elizayo liza kuzisa ntoni? Mhlawumbi uEmily uza kumnceda uTodd achonge ubungqingili bakhe. Mhlawumbi uDiane uza kubhala inqaku malunga nesihloko IntombazanaCroosh . Okanye mhlawumbi u-Todd uya kuqhubeka nokuphila ubomi bakhe ngaphandle kweelebheli, njengabanye abantu bokwenyani abangenalo umtsalane wesini. Kodwa nokuba kwenzeka ntoni, ngekhe kunciphise ukuba leliphi ixesha lesithathu UBoJack Horseman iphumelele-umboniso oyinyani, onokuphindaphindeka wobungqangi oboniswe ngolwimi oluhlala lutyeshela okanye lusebenzisa ezinye iindlela zokuziqhelanisa. UTodd usenokungabi ngowokuqala ukuboniswa kwi-pop-inkcubeko, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo nguye ebesifanele.

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