An ukuphazamisa ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo ifunyenwe, kwaye ichaphazela ingqondo yakho kunye nokuhanjiswa kwepun. Ibizwa ngokuba yi-witzelsucht, kwaye ibangela ukuba abantu benze iziqhulo, i-puns, kwaye babandakanyeke kwinto enokuthi ithathwe njengengxoxo engafanelekanga kunye / okanye indlela yokuziphatha-kwaye mhlawumbi iyabacaphukisa abantu. Eyona nto ibuhlungu, kuba ukuba ngumntu ozikhethela ukwenza isohlwayo esibi imini yonke yinto enye. Ukungakwazi ukulawula iipuns zakho ezimbi yenye into. Faka isiqhulo sakho apha, kuba ndikhathazeke kakhulu ngabantu abaninzi endibaziyo abanokuba bajongana nale nto sele ikho.
Ndingumntwana, kunjalo. Ndiyazamkela iipunks ezimbi zabahlobo bam, ngakumbi kuba kusenokwenzeka ukuba kuthetha ukuba ubuchopho babo busebenza kakuhle kakhulu. Umntu one-witzelsucht, nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba abe nokulimala kwengqondo okanye ukubetha, ngakumbi kwingingqi ejikelezayo yecala lasekunene lobuchopho. I-lobe yangaphambili yengqondo ilawula ubuntu bethu, ngoko unokucinga ukuba nawuphi na umonakalo kuloo mmandla uya kwenza ukuba senze izinto esingaqhelekanga ukuzenza. Nangona kubalulekile ukuba leliphi icala lobuchopho elonakeleyo, njengoko io9 isitsho:
Abantu abathatha ii-hits kwicala lasekhohlo lengqondo bahlala bexinezelekile kwaye benomsindo, ngelixa abo benzakeleyo kwicala lasekunene bahlala bevuya kwaye batyhafile nokuba kwenzeka ntoni.
Oko phantse kuyenza ivakala ngathi ngowona monakalo wobuchopho ungathengwa ngemali. Kodwa enyanisweni, ukwenzakala kwengqondo kusenzakele engqondweni. Kwaye ngelixa umntu enokuzonwabisa ngokwabo iziqhulo ukuba ilobe labo langaphambili lonzakele, amathuba okuba bayayicima inkampani. Ityala elinye elichaziweyo lalibandakanya indoda eneminyaka engama-56 ubudala engakhange ivelise i-witzelsucht kuphela, kodwa eyomeleleyo yokuqhuba ngesondo, ebangela ukuba enze iziqhulo ezazingafanelekanga ngokwesondo, lonke ixesha . Kakhulu kangangokuba oogqirha bebengenako ukuqhuba iimvavanyo kuye kwaye ebengakwazi ukumamela abantu xa bemxelela ukuba ayibethe. Ayisiyiyo ukuba wayenolawulo phezu kwayo, nangona. Omnye umfazi, owayeneminyaka engama-57 ubudala, wafumana i-witzelsucht emva kokubetha kancinci kwaye waba hilarious kubahlobo bakhe - kodwa ke waqalisa ukwenza ucoceko lobuqu.
Kwaye kanye xa ucinga ukuba umhlobo wakho ohluphekileyo, owonakele ngengqondo ngesiquphe yeyona nto intle ukuzisa kwitheko ukusukela etywaleni, nalu olunye uphawu olubi: abakwazi ukuphendula iziqhulo zomnye umntu. Ke, unokulibala malunga ne-silly banter okanye i-impromptu improv party. Le iya kuba yincoko esecaleni.
Esi sifo sikhangeleka singenangqondo siba buhlungu ngakumbi, kuba akukho lunyango lokwenyani. Inokunyangwa ngonyango lokuziphatha, incede umntu onesi sifo ukuba afunde kwakhona indlela yabo yokuziphatha yakudala kwaye baqonde ukuba abazenzi njengabo. Oko kukuthi, ukuba banokuzihlalela ukuhlala kwiseshoni. Olunye ukhetho kukuzinzisa iziyobisi. Kodwa gcina iliso kubahlobo bakho ukuba ngequbuliso ubafumana besenza iziqhulo ezingaphantsi kwemigangatho yabo. Baza kudinga uncedo olunzulu, kwaye hayi kuba uburharha babo buthathe indawo.
(nge io9 )
