Ukubona igama elithi ' yaoi '(Okanye' abafana bathanda ') ngokungathandabuzekiyo baya kuthumela iintsimbi ze-alamu ezingqondweni zabo babhinqileyo kunye ne-LGBTQ ngokufanayo abaqhelene ne-manga kunye ne-anime. Nangona inayo Iintshatsheli -Uchazwe ngokwakho ' fujoshi '(okanye' intombazana ebolileyo ') -uhlobo olo luye lwagxekwa kakhulu kubo bobabini ukumelwa kwabasetyhini (okanye ukusilela kwabo ngokupheleleyo) kunye nokufunxwa kwamadoda amdaka abonakala elusizi kubonakala ngathi aza kuba yinxalenye yolwabiwo lwe-LGBTQ . Ezi ziingxaki, njengokuthanda inkunkuma u-fujoshi ngokwam, Ndibhalile malunga nexesha elidlulileyo .
Nangona abalandeli be-manga baphuma kwi-fujoshi-loop ngekhe beve ngayo, enye yohlobo ethandwa kakhulu Kwiminyaka yakutshanje, Rihito Takarai ’s Amanani alishumi , uye wabamba abafundi ngeendaba ezimnyama nezintsonkothileyo zesini, uloyiko kunye nokuxhaphaza. Kodwa, kunye nokwenza umzamo omncinci wokuphepha ukubanjiswa okuqhelekileyo kwe-yaoi, Amanani alishumi yongeza kwakhona ipetroli emlilweni ngokuveza abafundi kolunye usana oluyingxaki kuhlobo esele lunengxaki.
Kwi-manga, sidibana noKurose Riku, umcebisi onomdla okhethekileyo kubantu abagqithisileyo mysophobia , ikwabizwa ngokuba yi-germophobia, ethi, phakathi kwezinye izinto, ibenze abo banesifo boyike ukudibana nabanye abantu. Ngokudibana namathuba, uKurose uwela iindlela kunye nonobhala uShirotani Tadaomi kwaye uyayiqonda ngokukhawuleza imeko ekhoyo kuye. Emva koko ufuna ukunyanga uShirotani- okanye ubuncinci athobe ubunzima bemeko yakhe ukumnceda aphile ubomi obuqhelekileyo- unyango lokuvezwa .
Nangona kunjalo, into ecacayo kuthi njengoko unyango luqhubeka kukuba uKurose ufuna okungakumbi kubudlelwane babo, oqala ngokungathandabuzekiyo asibekele usukelo njengogqirha. I-Cloudier iseyizimvakalelo zikaShirotani ngokubhekisele kugqirha-mhlobo wakhe omde, omnyama kwaye mhle, njengoko kutyhilwa kancinci ukuba ukubonakaliswa kwengxaki yakhe ngexesha lokufikisa kwabonakala ngathi kuyayicinezela inyani yesini sakhe.
Njengoko unyango lokuvezwa luqhubeka kwaye uShirotani eqala ukuphucula, uKurose uba nesibindi sokutyhila iminqweno yothando ayigcinileyo eyimfihlo evela eShirotani ecinezelwe ngokwesondo kwasekuqaleni. Kulapho iingxaki zengqondo kunye nezesondo zebali zikhulisa ngokupheleleyo iintloko zabo ezimbi. Njengokuba uKurose etyhalela ukuba nolwalamano olusenyongweni nomntu awaziyo ukuba woyika ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na enye into, kuya kuba nzima ukujongana nokuba uKurose utsalelekile eShirotani, okanye kukuphazamiseka kwakhe okugqithisileyo. Ngaba luthando lwenene, okanye inkcaso nje?
Njengam, ngaphambi kokufunda oku, usenokuba ubungazi ukuba iimfesane zabantu abakhubazekileyo zikhona, kodwa ziyenzeka ngokuqinisekileyo. Ukuzinikela inkcubeko, njengoko ibizwa njalo, licandelwana le-BDSM, uluntu oluvuswe ngumbono wokukhathalela umntu abamjonga esesichengeni, ngokufanayo nomnqweno wokuba abathunyiweyo abatyebileyo Izibuko lokondla ngaphezulu umntu osayizi ongezelelweyo.
Ngelixa kukho impikiswano esemthethweni ekufuneka yenziwe ukukhusela kunye nokugcina imeko ethandwayo yesondo, asinakuze siyiphephe into yokuba-ngaphandle kokuba iqabane lakho ngomnye wabakhangekileyo oonodoli besini -Kukho umzimba womntu oneemvakalelo zomntu eziqhotyoshelwe nakweyiphi na into kuwo ovulwa ngayo. Ke, abantu abakhubazekileyo baziva njani malunga nokukhubazeka kwabo ekubeni ngumthombo wolonwabo lomnye umntu?
Idlala kwimicimbi emininzi entlalontle; Ukuzimela komzimba kubantu abakhubazekileyo ukuya kumandla okulingana okungalinganiyo, umbhali okhubazekileyo uSE Smith ucacisile iposti kumcimbi we FWD / Phambili . Wongeze ngelithi, njengelungu lenkcubeko ye-BDSM, wayengenangxaki ngemfesane, kodwa ke, kukho umahluko, kum, phakathi, yithi, mntwana wesikhumba […] okanye umbungu wesithende esiphakamileyo kunye nomntwana oludidi oluthile umzimba. Kukho iidigri zamandla okudlala, kunye nenkcubeko yokuzinikela, kum, ivakalelwa ngathi yindlela yokudlala yamandla. […] Ukukhubazeka kokufelwa asikuphela kohlobo lokufikisa olugxile ekufumaneni imizimba ebekelwe bucala. Umzekelo, iimfesane zobuhlanga zixhaphake kakhulu. Njengomntwana wabantwana nolutsha. Le mizimba sele ihluthwe ubuntu kuluntu nakwinkcubeko yethu; Ukuzifumana kuba yingxaki enkulu kuba kuyongeza kwisidima sabo. Uye wagxininisa ngokuthe ngqo ukuba kutheni ukufikelwa kweentlobo zomzimba kungafani ngokwahlukileyo kunamalungu omzimba.Umzimba ayisiyonto ungayithatha uyicime. Xa umntu enziwe ngesimo somntwana onyawo, izithende zingasuswa. […] Xa ugqibile ukuphonononga amandla okudlala, uyavela kwindawo yesehlo kwaye ubuyele kwimeko elinganayo. Awunakukwenza oko ngomzimba ojongelwe phantsi. Xa umzimba wakho ulusana lomntu, uyinto. Awunawo amandla. Lonke ixesha. Awunakubaleka.
Loo mgca wokugqibela ovusa amakhonkco uyinyani ngokukodwa kumlinganiswa ofana noShirotani. Ubume obungenakuphepheka bokuphazamiseka kwakhe bubonakaliswe kakuhle yimanga, njengoko kunjalo ukuxubana okungahambelaniyo kokukhululeka kunye nesithukuthezi oziva ehlala kwiindawo ezikude kodwa ezilawulwayo, ezibonakala ngathi ziyinyani ngokuchasene le akhawunti ye-mysophobia-sufferer engaziwayo . Ukunyanga kukaKurose uShirotani, kwelinye icala, mhlawumbi kubandakanya okungaphezulu 'kokugqwethekileyo' koothixo abazinikeleyo, njengoko etyhala imida ye-Shirotani's phobia kwimisebenzi yemihla ngemihla kunye negumbi lokulala, ezama rhoqo ukufunda phakathi kwemigca yamazwi kaShirotani kunye Umxelele umzimba - okanye ukuba ikhona into enokufundwa kwasekuqaleni. Ubonakala ngathi uyayivuyela ingxabano kaShirotani yokuba mdaka ngokwenyani nokuba ungcolile ngengqondo yesondo, Ufuna ukundilahla, okanye ungcoliswe ndim? , kunye ivumela ubume bayo bokubakho ukuba buthabathe ithuba kwimeko yokuzahlula ecinezelweyo kaShirotani. UShirotani uhlala esithi uziva ofe umzimba Ngexesha lokudibana kwabo ngokwesondo, kokubini kukugula kwakhe kunye ne-naiveté yobuntombi, eyokugqibela uKurose ayisebenzisayo ukumenza usana- Ufana nomntwana— ukumdimaza ngakumbi.
Nangona u-Takarai esenza ukuba kucace gca njengoko ibali liqhubeka ukuba iimvakalelo zikaKurose ngoShirotani zibaleka nzulu kunokuthi a kakhulu isondo elithile lomntwana, oku kufakwa kukuziva ngathi sisizathu. Ngelixa uKurose ezalisekisa isibambiso sakhe sokunciphisa ukubandezeleka kukaShirotani, oko kuzaliseka kuza ngendleko zokuxhaphaza. Apho kufanele ukuba kuvunyelwane, kukho ukunyanzelwa kolawulo nokuzithoba. Apho kufanele kubekho ubambiswano olulinganayo, kukho umntu okwisikhundla samandla ajolise kwaye ahlasele ubuthathaka bomnye umntu.
Kuba Amanani alishumi iwela phantsi kwebakaki ebanzi yothando, uhlobo olusifundisa ukujonga yonke into ekulo ngokusebenzisa iiglasi ezinemibala ebomvu, siyatsaleleka ekubeni sibhenele kwizinto ezingekho mpilweni kubudlelwane bobuxoki ngokuthanda izinto ezintle, ezithandekayo zothando- nangayiphi na indlela -Ulunyango olungenasiphako-konke, ngakumbi uthando ngaphandle kwento ethile. Kodwa, wakuba uzibeke ecaleni iiglasi, yonke into oyibonayo yinyani embi yebali, efana no-EL. KaJames ’ 50 Iimpawu zoGrey uthotho, kuqhelekile ukuxhatshazwa . Kuyavunywa, i-Takarai iyakwazi ukunika abalinganiswa bayo inkathalo ebaluleke ngakumbi kunokuba uJames ekwazile ukuyenzela yena, kodwa ngelixa oku kuyenza nzulu inzondelelo yomfundi yokucacisa ubunzima bebali, iyabatyeshela inkxalabo yeemvakalelo abahlali abakhubazekileyo abaluvakalisileyo malunga nokungaxhobisi ukukhubazeka komntwana.
Amanani alishumi kusaqhubeka ngexesha lokubhalwa, ke mhlawumbi akulunganga ukuyigweba iyonke okwangoku. Kusekho ukuhlawulwa ukuba uTakarai uthatha isigqibo sokongeza ilizwi elibaluleke ngakumbi kwingxelo. Kodwa, mhlawumbi kufanelekile ukuba, kwibali elinyanzela abo baphambili ukuba bajongane nolonwabo lwabo olunzulu nolunetyala, thina njengabafundi- kunye ne-fujoshi- siyanyanzelwa ukuba sijongane neyethu: ubundlobongela obenziwe ngaphakathi bokuchasa ubungqongqo, ukungaziphathi kakuhle ngaphakathi kokufuna indoda -amabali achaziweyo, kunye nokuzibandakanya ngaphakathi kwamandla okuziphatha ngokwesondo ngaphezulu kwabo sibona ngathi babuthathaka kunathi.
Ukufumana ngakumbi ukukhulelwa kokukhubazeka, ndincoma ezi zixhobo:
' I-Queer kwaye ikhubazekile ekukhutshweni ‘, Ijika
' Ndifikile njani kuMntu oNgoMntu oSebenzisa ukukhubazeka kwam ‘, Usekela
' Iziqhwala eziMhle kwaye abantu baJike ngokuKhubazeka ‘, Iindaba ze-BBC
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