Ukuphononongwa: Ndihleli phakathi kwamashumi amahlanu amathunzi eGrey, kwaye ngoku ndinxanelwe iinyembezi zamadoda

Akukho ndawo ingako ekuphononongeni Amashumi amahlanu eeShad (imuvi) ngaphandle komxholo we Amashumi amahlanu eeShad (into). Andifuni ukugxeka abanye abantu bafumana iijollies zabo, kwaye ndicinga ukuba kuyamangalisa ukuba abeendaba banamandla okutshintsha umbono wabaphulaphuli ngesondo sabo. Ngelishwa, Amashumi amahlanu eeShad ukudibanisa ubuni be nayiphi na uhlobo kunye ne-arhente; kwaye kangangoko ndingathanda ukucinga ukuba wonke umntu obukeleyo okanye ofundayo yenza njalo ngomgama obalulekileyo, kubonakala ngathi kunethemba xa ndikhumbula indlela uCarolyn oneminyaka eli-19 ubudala angazange acinge ngayo kabini malunga nokuziphatha gwenxa kukaChristian Grey, okanye xa ndicinga indlela encinci- Ngorhatya -fanfic-that-can has created a unhealthy kwaye ayichanekanga imbono ethandwayo yekink.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, kukho abantu abonwabileyo imiba ye Amashumi amahlanu eeShad Ngelixa ikwagxeka ukuzukiswa kwayo kokuphathwa gadalala ekhaya; kodwa kukwakho nabantu abaya kuthi hlawula i $ 12,397 ukufumana amava eGrey angamaKristu. Ukuphinda wenze kwakhona: Amava eGrey angamaKristu aboniswe ezincwadini nakwinqanaba elithile kumdlalo bhanyabhanya kubandakanya kodwa ayikhawulelwanga Ukulandela, ukukhanyisa igesi, ubuqhetseba, ukunyanzelwa ukuba uhlukane nabahlobo kunye nosapho, kunye nosongelo lodlwengulo. Akukho nanye kwezi ndlela zokuziphatha eyinxalenye ye-BDSM. Akukho nanye kwezi ndlela zokuziphatha eyamkelekileyo kubudlelwane. Amashumi amahlanu eeShad (Umboniso bhanyabhanya) ubonakalisa amandla okuhlukumeza ngokucacileyo kunakuqala Amashumi amahlanu eeShad incwadi, kodwa ayisiyiyo indlela yokuxhasa ifilimu. Ukuba kukho nantoni na, loo nto yenza impembelelo yayo yoyike.

Ngokwenene bendifuna nje ipiksi yehempe ethe nca entlokweni yakhe.

Ndikunike u-Dakota Johnson, nangona-intombazana yenza umsebenzi olunge kakhulu wokwenza into ngaphandle kwento. I-EL UJames 'Ana ngokusisiseko ubambe indawo, kodwa uJohnson uyahlekisa, ufudumele, unovelwano, kwaye uhlakaniphile (andinakulinda ukumbona kumdlalo bhanyabhanya ofanelekileyo). Incwadi yagxininisa ukuba uAna wayenobuqili ngenxa yokuthandabuza ukwanelisa ukuthanda kwakhe umntu omnye, kodwa uJohnson njengomdlali weqonga ubonakala egxeka isigijimi somdlalo bhanyabhanya ukuba ukungafuni kwakhe okunene kwenza ukuba umKristu abukeke kancinci njengejerikha engathandekiyo. Ukuba kukho inceba enye ehlangulayo Amashumi amahlanu eeShad (i-movie) eyayinqongophele incwadi, kukuba ukusebenza okumangalisayo kukaJohnson kuvumela abaphulaphuli ukuba bajonge kuAna kwaye babone owasetyhini oyinyani. Owona mfazi uthandana nesoka lakhe ngenxa yotyelelo losapho. Umfazi wokwenyani onendlu yakhe eqhekeziweyo kuba enqabile ukulala nendoda. Owona mfazi unetyala lokucinga ukuba unoxanduva lokulungisa umxhaphazi wakhe.

UJamie Dornan ulungile. Ndiyaqikelela. Kunzima ukugxeka intsebenzo yakhe xa umlinganiswa obhaliweyo engenzi kangako ecaleni komlilo kwaye enxibe ijeans ezisezantsi zehlabathi. (Isiseko sikaDornan, nangona kunjalo, kucacile ukuba ufuna i-Oscar. Indoda inemqolo njengebhegi egcwele iinyoka.) Malunga nobunqunu: nangona itshizi yomntu ihlala ikhuselekile kwiibhulukhwe zakhe zemilingo ezidadayo kuninzi lwefilimu, uAna uhamba ze kaninzi kunoko; Ungaphikisana ukuba oko kukubonisa ubudlelwane obuncinci be-Dom / Dom, kodwa ukusukela, njengoko uRoxane Gay ebeka , Amashumi amahlanu eeShad Kukuya kwi-BDSM njengoko iMcDonald's ikukutya okwenyani, kunokwenzeka ukuba ukubonakaliswa komzimba kuka-Ana sesinye nje isalathiso somgangatho oyingozi ophindwe kabini apho yonke ilungelo lokuthengisa (kwaye Ngorhatya Phambi kwayo) yakhiwe.

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Ukuba Amathunzi angamashumi amahlanu nantlanu kagreyi kwakuthetha ngomfazi owothusa umfana athandana naye-kangangeeveki ezininzi ngokubhabhela ngaphandle kwendlu yabazali bakhe okanye ukuqhekeza indlu yakhe, ngekhe kwenziwa i-movie, okanye ubuncinci akukho namnye owakhutshwa ngoSuku lweValentine. Umfazi onetyhefu uyinto eyoyikisayo okanye ehlekisayo; Amadoda aneendlela ezifanayo zokuziphatha athathwa njengabantu abathandanayo. Umboniso bhanyabhanya ukhupha ulwazi oluninzi olungelulo olumalunga ne-BDSM (kunye nomdlalo bhanyabhanya ocacileyo ukuba ulala nomntu wesini, ngokuqinisekileyo ukhathazekile ngokuzinqanda), kodwa ngaphezulu kwayo nantoni na eyenye, sisikhumbuzo sendlela lula yindoda.

Amathunzi angamashumi amahlanu nantlanu kagreyi inobukrelekrele kakhulu kunemithombo yayo, kodwa ubukrelekrele kule meko akuthethi bhetele. Hayi apho kubalwa khona, ubuncinci. Umboniso bhanya-bhanya unolwazi ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungayisebenzisa njani i-EL Iprozi eyothusayo kaJames njengesixhobo sokuhlekisa, kodwa ngenxa yokuba umboniso bhanyabhanya ufuna ukuba abaphulaphuli bakhe baqonde ubuyatha bezinto zokugqibela, usana, oko akuthethi ukuba umKristu ngokwakhe kufanele ukuba abonakale engaphantsi kokufanelekileyo. Kulapho amandla aloyikisayo olungelelwaniso alala khona: ekuqaleni iziveza njengentsimbi embi kakhulu ngamava amnandi, kodwa xa ikaka ibetha fan, ibetha ngamandla. Ngaphandle kwayo nayiphi na into yokuthelekisa, ukuphathwa gadalala kuka-Ana kunokubonakala ngathi kuyinxalenye yokuhlekisa, okanye okubi ngakumbi, kungamangalisi.

Kukho indawo ekufutshane nesiqalo sebhanyabhanya apho umKristu athi kuAna wayenayo akukho khetho kodwa ukumkhulula xa engekabikho zingqondweni ngaphambi kokuba amlalise. (Kuba ukulala ezitalatweni-iimpahla zakho kuyabulala, ndiyaqikelela?! ???) Kodwa wayenokhetho, nawe ke. Sukuyibona le movie-hayi kuba ingeyomtsalane, iyonwabisa, kwaye iyonwabisa, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ishishini-njengesiqhelo misogyny ekukhohliseni, ukupakisha ikhekhe lenkomo. Kwaye kuba iinyosi zesithuba. Akukho nto ithi uSuku lweValentine lufana neenyosi zesikhala, akunjalo?

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