Xa ndizimisele ukuphanda Iifangirls , Ndandisele ndiqhelene nobugcisa bokuphambanisa.
Ukuba uhloniphekile Iifayile ze-X fangirl kuyo yonke iminyaka yam yeshumi elivisayo, iikhonsepthi ze-OTPs, i-UST kunye ne-fanfiction zazingezizo zintsha kum nakancinci. Into ebonakalise ukuba yahlukile, isondela kwi-fandom njengomfazi okhulileyo, yayinzulu yeemvakalelo zomntu endaye ndazazi. Ngelixa ukuqaqanjelwa kwam kweshumi elinambini bekukude kakhulu malunga nokuhlola indalo yomntu, iinzame zam zabantu abadala zokunxibelelana nefandom zazininzi kakhulu malunga nokuqonda ngoba Mna fangirl. Kutheni nabani na kuthi? Kutheni le nto siphendula abalinganiswa abaziintsomi, nokuba bahlala kumaphepha encwadi ethandwa kakhulu okanye kwesinye sezikrini zethu ezininzi, ngokungathi ngabantu bokwenyani? Impendulo emfutshane kukuba novelwano.
Kwiingqondo zethu, uvelwano luhlala kwilobe encinci ebizwa ngokuba yi ekunene supramarginal gyrus. Xa sinxibelelana nabanye abantu, sizisebenzisa njengezinto zokubonisa iimvakalelo ukuzama ukuqonda ukuba baziva njani. Sifunda ulwimi lwabo lomzimba, ithoni yelizwi, imbonakalo yobuso kwaye sisebenzise amava ethu angaphakathi njengesilinganisi ukukhokela unxibelelwano lwethu nabo. Yintoni enomdla kukuba kwizifundo apho le nxalenye yengqondo yaphazamiseka, abathathi-nxaxheba baxela ukufumanisa ukuba nzima ngakumbi hayi baveze imeko yabo yeemvakalelo kwabanye. Le nto, ewe, yinto esiyenzayo sonke ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba elithile, ngakumbi ukuba sinoxinzelelo okanye sizama ukwenza izigqibo ngokukhawuleza kunokuba i-gyrus yethu inokuphatha.
Ngoku, xa sinovelwano nomntu ophambi kwethu ngokwasemzimbeni, sinethuba lokufumana amava okuchukumisa - ukubanga, ukucinezela isandla sabo ngokuqinisekisayo- oko kuyomeleza ukusabela kwethu ngokweemvakalelo. Kwinqanaba elithile, uvelwano yinkqubo eyaziwayo- kwaye zikho iindlela zokuphucula ubuchule bethu bokuvelana nabanye. Kodwa kwinqanaba le-neurobiological, kukho imisebenzi ethile ekhoyo okanye engekho komnye wethu. I-Sociopaths, ngokuqinisekileyo, ine-gyrus esebenzayo esezantsi. Ii-empaths, kwelinye icala, zinokusebenza okuphezulu.
Inye into esinceda sinovelwano nosapho kunye nabahlobo, nokuba zithini na iziseko zethu zokwenza oko, kukuzama ukugcwalisa iinkcukacha zento esingayaziyo ngemeko yabo. Into ebangela umdla kukuba, oku kukwangaphezulu okanye kuncinci kwento esiyenzayo ngabalinganiswa abaziintsomi; enyanisweni, ngamanye amaxesha kulula ukubavelana nabo kuba sihlala sinikwa, ngokucacileyo, ulwazi oluneenkcukacha ngakumbi nolusondeleyo lomlinganiswa kunokuba besinokwazi ngomntu kubomi bethu bokwenyani. Kwaye, njengasebomini, kuyindalo yethu ukuzalisa izikhewu xa siziswa ngomlinganiswa esingamazi kakuhle. Intsomi yenye yeendlela esenza ngayo oku kwinqanaba loluntu. Iintloko, Igama elingu-fandom elibhekisa kwinto umntu akholelwa ukuba iyinyani malunga nomlinganiswa, nangona ingeyiyo i-canon, yenye yeendlela esizikhupha ngayo iinkcukacha zobomi babalinganiswa njengoko sizama ukuqonda kwaye, ekugqibeleni, sizive kubo inqanaba elithile.
Kwinqanaba le-neurobiological, amava ethu okusebenzisa intsomi ngenene kakhulu ngokwenene. Ngokulinganayo kunjalo. Xa sifunda ngevumba lekofu, umzekelo, iziko lobuchwephesha bengqondo yethu liyakhanya. Asinako ngokwenene ivumba, kodwa siqhelene nevumba kwaye sinokuyihlaziya. Ngokukodwa ukuba ulwimi lutyebile kwaye luyasinceda ekuphindaphindeni amava. Izikweko zinokuba luncedo ekusinikeni amava aphilileyo, amava amaninzi xa sifunda, izifaniso zinceda uluhlu olubanzi lwabafundi ukuba bafumane imvakalelo efanayo, ngokusekwe kumava ethu angaphakathi.
Endaweni yokuzama ukufumana abalinganiswa abachanekileyo be-ontological, ndingathanda ukuba endaweni yoko sijonge indlela esiza kubazi ngayo abalinganiswa, endinethemba lokuyibonisa, ayifani kwaphela nendlela esazi ngayo abantu, emntwini kwaye ngakumbi ngemisebenzi engeyonyani.
-UWoward Sklar, Iintsomi ezikholelekayo
Eyona ngxaki inkulu yefilosofi esijamelana nayo kukuchaza ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba yinyani. Kwinqanaba elithile elisisiseko, siyinyani kwaye abalinganiswa abayinyani abayonyani; ubukhulu becala zizinto ezimelweyo okanye ukudibana kwabantu bokwenyani, kodwa bona ngokwabo abanabo ubunyani bodwa ebomini. Ayinyama negazi. Asinakho ukubandakanyeka nabo kwelo nqanaba linokuchukumiseka esinokuthi kunye nalo, sithi, umhlobo esimthuthuzelayo. Kwifilimu nakumabonwakude, sinokuhlala sandisa iimvakalelo zethu ngabalinganiswa kubadlali ababonisa abangenabungozi kodwa bengabothusi abadlali. Okwangoku, ukuzama ukuchaza ubunyani bento ehambelana nomlingisi kuhlala kungqina ukuba zibhalwa njani kwaye zidlalwa njani ngumdlali weqonga.
Iithiyori zoncwadi ziyasokola ukwamkela ukuba umlinganiswa unokuba yinyani, kuba ethathwe ngaphandle komxholo wendalo yabo yonke (nokuba kukwincwadi, umabonakude okanye ifilimu) abakwazi ukuzimela. Ewe kunjalo, umntu unokuphikisa ngelithi kukho abantu abathile boncwadi abangaphelelwa lixesha, abangenasiphelo, kangangokuba le mpikiswano iya kwenziwa ingasebenzi. Iincwadi kunye nomdlalo bhanyabhanya uhlala uthabathe uhlahlo kuhlahlo-lwabiwo mali oluphezulu lwefestile, ukuthatha abalinganiswa abathandwayo (abanokwenzeka kwindawo kawonke-wonke) kwaye babangenise kwezinye iiyunivesithi. Cinga Ngeminazana ithile .
Nokuba ngaba abalinganiswa bayinyani ngokwenzululwazi, ukuqheleka kwabo kubo kubenza babe namandla ngokweemvakalelo; uhlobo lwenyani yeemvakalelo esidibana nayo kwinqanaba lebhayolojingokufanayo nangabantu esingabaziyo esiza kubazi ngexesha lexesha- okanye iminyaka, yokunyaniseka kwabalandeli.
Ukutolikwa kwethu kwabadlali ababonisa abalinganiswa, okanye umbhali owababhalayo, akunakusoloko kulahlekisa. Abadlali bahlala bechwetheza. Ababhali bahlala befaka izinto zobuntu babo kumlinganiswa okanye ezimbini, nkqu ngokungazi. Ubudlelwane bethu nabalinganiswa, ke, buvela ngokunxulumene nomdlali weqonga obazisa ebomini kwingcinga yethu. Konke kusekelwe kwiimvakalelo zangempela. Amava okwenyani.
Ezinye zefilosofi zicebise ukuba impendulo yeemvakalelo esinayo kubalinganiswa beentsomi ayinakuba yinyani kuba ayijoliswanga kubantu bokwenyani. Akukho ngqiqweni, akuhambelani, kwaye akuhambelani ukucinga ukuba sinokujolisa kwiimvakalelo zokwenyani kwizinto ezingezizo, Uxoxa uColin Radford .
Ukucacisa ngakumbi, usicela ukuba siqwalasele indlela impendulo yethu yeemvakalelo kwinto eyoyikisayo enokutshintsha ngayo ukuba kamva sifumanise ukuba asiyonyani. Ngelixa sikholelwa ukuba liyinyani, siphendula ngovelwano-nangona kunjalo, ukuba sikholelwa ukuba iakhawunti iyinyani, okanye ukuba siyayazi ukuba iyinyani, asinakho ukuba novelwano. Xa sifunda incwadi okanye sibukele ifilimu, nangona kunjalo, siyazi ukuba sithatha into engekhoyo, kodwa ngandlela thile sisachukumiseka kakhulu yiyo.
Esinye isithandi sobulumko, uKendall Walton, uyazibuza ukuba ingaba amava esiwabonayo xa sibukele imovie eyoyikisayo, ayiluloyiko lokwenyani- kodwa luloyiko olungenangqondo. Ezi phantse-kodwa-hayi-iimvakalelo ezingasekelwanga kwinkolelo, kodwa zenze-inkolelo. Abantwana abadlala umdlalo wokuzenzisa notata wabo, apho azenza isilo esikhulu esibaleqayo, baya kubaleka badlale bazimele kuye kodwa bangathandabuzi ukubuyela kuye xa umdlalo ugqityiwe. Ezi mvakalelo ze-quasi-iimvakalelo zokuzonwabisa kukonakaliswa ngexesha lomdlalo bhanyabhanya owoyikisayo, okanye umnqweno wethu wokulila ubukele into enje Isinyithi Magnolias Okweshumi elinanye. Ngapha koko, ayisiyonto nje nayiphi imovie okanye incwadi enokusinika olo lonwabo (okanye olubi) Ijeebie jeebies okanye wenze ukuba ukhale iinyembezi ezinkulu zamadoda.
Ngelixa sinokukhetha, nangona kunjalo, ukuzibandakanya nezinto eziyinyani asibonakali ngathi silawula iimpendulo zethu zeemvakalelo kuwo-ngokungakhathali okanye hayi. Kwaye nangoku, kwenzeka njani emva koko ukuba sihambe kakuhle siye kumdlalo bhanyabhanya, okanye sithathe incwadi esiyifundileyo amaxesha asisigidi, kungekuphela nje ngokwazi ukuba uvuthondaba lweemvakalelo luza kodwa sazi kakuhle ukuba ayiyonyani- okwangoku sisafumana sizikrazula? Owu, yeyiphi le web ibophelelweyo siyaluka.
Siya kuba senza kakuhle ukukhumbula ukuba kutheni sifunda okanye sibukela iifilimu kwasekuqaleni; asikuko ukuba namava kwento esingazange sayifumana ebomini bethu bokwenyani? Qonda ubomi babanye abantu, ngaphakathi nangaphandle? Ngaba ayilophawu lokubonakalisa kakuhle ukuba baziva njani kuthi?
Sonke sivile ama-anecdotes malunga nabadlali abadlala abaqeqeshi bezonyango kumabonwakude bezifumana kwiimeko apho unyango lwangempela lufuna ukunikezelwa - kwaye kufuneka bakhumbuze abo babangqongileyo ukuba abayiyo, enyanisweni, ugqirha.Badlala nje kumabonakude.
Yinjongo yabenzi babalinganiswa abanjalo ukuba simise inkolelo yethu ukuze sibone umdlali njengophawu; Sijonga ubuchule bamagcisa afana noMeryl Streep othe ngocingoyibaisimilo, apho akufuneki sibeke mzamo ungako konke konke ukuze siziqinisekise ukuba kunjalo UMiranda ubuPristi kwaye ayisiyiyo kuphela iMeryl Streep enenwele enkulu. Kodwa sithatha njani isigqibo kwinqanaba lokungazi ukuba ayingoMeryl Streep kwiTV yethu?
Isithandi sobulumko uTamar Gendler posits ukuba sinamanqanaba amabini okhuphiswano lokuqonda- inkolelo kunye alif. Into yangaphambili elawula ulwazi lwethu lwengqondo ukuba ewe, intsomi ayisiyonyani. Apho le yokugqibela, into ayibiza ngokuba yi-alief kukukwazi kwengqondo yethu ukumisa inkolelo yethu yokuba iintsomi aziyonyani- yiyo loo nto yenza ukubukela imovie kumnandi. Singalahleka kuzo, kodwa nje ukuba iikhredithi ziqengqeleke kwaye sibuyele kumhla wethu kubomi bemihla ngemihla, thina yazi yayinguMeryl Streep nje nge intle iinwele.
Le nkqubo ye-alief, nangona kunjalo, yinkqubo ekhula ngakumbi njengoko sikhula. Yiyo le nto abantwana betshutshiswa nangakumbi ngamabali kunathi. Ukuba ukhe wamsa umntwana omncinci kumdlalo weqonga ophilayo, mhlawumbi uqhelene nomzabalazo wokuba ubacacisele ukuba umdlali odlala umlinganiswa kuphela ukuzenzisa ukuba buhlungu.
Iingcali zengqondo zikwanomdla koko zikubizayo ukuthatha amava , apho sithatha ngokungathandabuzekiyo sithatha iimpawu, izimo zengqondo kunye nokuziphatha kwabalinganiswa bethu esibathandayo. Iimpazamo zethu ( yingxaki okanye hayi ) zihlala zinjalo kuba siziqonda ngokuchanekileyo. Kwisifundo esinye, iingcali zengqondo zifumanise ukuba abathathi-nxaxheba banayo ixesha elinzima kakhulu lokuthatha amava xa befunda phambi kwesipili ; mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba bahlala bekhunjuzwa ngokwabo. Ke, ukuthatha amava kunokuba kwenzeka kuphela xa umntu enokucinezela isazisi sakhe kwaye azilahle encwadini okanye kwifilimu.
Ukuthatha amava kwahlukile kukuzibeka ezicathulweni zomnye umntu, okuthathela ingqalelo ngakumbi-njengaxa sasixoxa ngovelwano ngaphambili. Isenzo sokuthatha amava, iimpawu okanye iimpawu zinamandla kakhulu; kuba iyenzeka kwinqanaba lokungazi, ekuhambeni kwexesha utshintsho olulungileyo inokukhulisa umntu ngamnye: ukunyuka kokuzithemba, ukukhuthazeka kunye nenqanaba elikhulu lokuthuthuzela ekuhlaleni, komnye.
Ukuba unguGoogle kutheni sinamathela kubalinganiswa abayintsomi? Iziphumo ezingama-2,800,000 zibuyisiwe. Ezinye zazo ngamanqaku anje, abuza imibuzo malunga nokusebenza kwengqondo, ifilosofi, malunga nendlela esidibana ngayo nabalinganiswa bethu esibathandayo. Abanye, nangona kunjalo, babulawa kwiibhodi zemiyalezo kunye neeblogi apho abantu bezibuza endaweni yokoyikeka ukuba bayagula ekuphuhliseni iimpendulo zokwenyani zeemvakalelo kubalinganiswa ababaziyo, ngokwengqondo, abanyani.
Into esiyijongileyo xa kufikwa kumba wokunxibelelana nabalinganiswa ayifani ncam naleyo singayithanda ngabo. Ngapha koko, xa kufikwa ekuhlambeni ngenene into esenza ukuba ngokwenene, ngokwenene, simthande ngokwenene umlinganiswa, ayisiyiyo le nto yokuba sicinge njengabalingane bethu abaziintsomi, kodwa ukuba singathanda ukuba ngabahlobo nabo.
Ezingcanjini, umtsalane wethu kubalinganiswa abayintsomi isenokungabi kukuba siyazichaza kubo kangako konke-kodwa kunoko, siyakonwabela ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabo. Nokuba kungamaphepha encwadi, ixesha elitsha leTV okanye ubude befilimu, kwiiyure ezimbalwa ubuncinci silahlekile kwilizwe labo.
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