Izifundo ozifunde kwiveki engenabahlobo bakaFacebook

Zero Abahlobo

Ukufika ebusuku kakhulu ngoLwesithathu Ndabonisa wonke umntu kwiakhawunti yam kaFacebook ukubona ukuba ubomi buya kuba njani ngaphandle kweNtlalontle. Ndisebenzise iFacebook ngokukhethekileyo ngokusebenzisana namakhasi kwiveki yonke ngoku , Kwaye kunqunyulwe zonke izinto ebendingazithandi ngeFacebook, kodwa kuyacaca ukuba kunqunyulwe ezimbalwa zezinto endizenzileyo malunga neFacebook ngokunjalo. Makhe sijonge ezinye zeengxaki.

Unxibelelwano

I-Facebook yenye yeendlela ezifanelekileyo zonxibelelwano ezakha zenziwa. Ungasasaza ngokulula ulwazi kwinethiwekhi enkulu, kodwa unokudibana nabantu abanomzamo omncinci okanye ukuzibandakanya. Ngokuqinisekileyo kulula kakhulu ukuba wabelane ngolwazi malunga neFacebook, kwaye yeyona nto ndingayithandiyo ukuba nabahlobo bakaFacebook. Andikhathalelanga nje uninzi lolwazi endilufumanayo.

Kwinqaku lam elilandelayo kwimpelaveki malunga nokuba okanye ukungabinazo iitshomi zikaFacebook kuthetha ukuba ndinabahlobo zero ebomini, ndavuma ukuba ndiyathanda ukuba kunzima ukuba abantu banxibelelane nam. Umntu othumela ngento abanayo isidlo sasemini eludongeni lwabo unokufikelela kumakhulu abahlobo bakhe, kodwa ayifikeleli kum. Ukuba ufuna ukundixelela into oyityileyo ngesidlo sasemini, kuya kufuneka uphume endleleni yakho undixelele buqu. Ndiyayithanda lo nto.

Into endingayithandiyo ngokukodwa kukuba isebenza zombini iindlela. Kunzima ukuba abantu banxibelelane nam, kodwa kunzima nokuba ndidibane nabo. Xa kuziwa kubahlobo bam abasondeleyo kunye nosapho, ndiyaphila naloo nto. Xa ndifuna ukwabelana ngesiqwenga solwazi nabantu abaninzi kangangoko kunokwenzeka, yingxaki leyo.

Ndinomboniso wehlaya ngobu busuku, kwaye indlela yam yesiqhelo yokuthengisa kukuthumela kuFacebook amatyeli ambalwa, kwaye umeme abahlobo endicinga ukuba bangathanda ukuza kulo mboniso. Ngoku ukuba ndinabahlobo abangama-zero andinakumema mntu, kwaye ngenxa yendlela i-Facebook ejija ngayo ukugcwala kwephepha, kuphela iqhezu labantu abathanda iphepha lam lokuhlekisa abaya kubona uhlaziyo malunga nalo.

Icala eliqaqambileyo loku, nangona kunjalo, kukuba kule veki akukho namnye wabahlobo bam abahlekisayo oye wandimema kwimiboniso yabo ngeFacebook, kwaye kuye kwafuneka beze kum buqu.

Ngaphandle kokuzazisa, i-Facebook ilungile xa unento eluncedo ukuxelela abantu abaninzi ngaxeshanye. Kule mpelaveki bendineetikiti ezimbini kwikonsathi endizama ukuyinika ngesaziso esifutshane. Xa bendinabahlobo abangamakhulukhulu be-Facebook, ukuba bendithumele malunga nokufumana amatikiti ekonsathi amabini asimahla ngendifumana impendulo komnye umntu kwaye abanye babahlobo bam ngeba bahambile. Endaweni yoko, amatikiti ahamba engasetyenziswanga.

Kunokubakho ezinye izibonelelo zokuba nabahlobo bakaFacebook emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kodwa andikaqiniseki ukuba kufanele ukuba ndinama-369 wabo.

Ukucacisa Kutheni Ndingenguye Umhlobo Wabantu

Kwiveki ephelileyo bendikhe ndaneencoko ezilishumi elinambini nabantu malunga nokuba kutheni ndingengabo abahlobo bakaFacebook nabo, okanye kutheni bengazihluphi ngokundithumelela isicelo sobungani. Oku kuye kwadina ngoba andikuthandi ukuziphinda. Umahluko wale nto kukuba abantu bacinga ukuba ndibone into abayithumele kuFacebook.

Ukungabinabahlobo bakaFacebook ngoku kufana nokungabinayo iselfowuni kwiminyaka emihlanu okanye edlulileyo, okanye ukungabinayo ifowuni kwi-90's. (Ndicinga ukuba wonke umntu uneeselfowuni ngoku, ngakumbi umntu ofunda iGeekosystem.) Ayinguye wonke umntu osebenzisa i-Facebook, kodwa abantu abaneleyo benza ukuba kukhuselekile ukucinga ukuba ungathumela umntu umyalezo kuyo.

Ukuba kwiqela elingaphezulu okanye elingafikelelekiyo nge-Facebook kunokufuna ukucaciswa okungakumbi kubomi bokwenyani kunokuba kufanelekile.

Wonke umntu uluphosile usuku lwam lokuzalwa

Ndijike i-30 kutshanje, kwaye ndafumana imiyalezo enguziro malunga nayo kuFacebook. Ewe ibiyinto yam le bendiyenza. Oku kwenzekile ngaphambi kokuba ndingabonakalisi wonke umntu, kodwa kunyaka ophelileyo bendicatshukiswa yiyo yonke iminqweno yokuzalwa yabantu abayaziyo kuphela ukuba ngumhla wam wokuzalwa kuba uFacebook wabaxelela ukuze ndithabathe usuku lwam lokuzalwa kwiprofayile yam. Ngokucacileyo, ukuba nabahlobo abangama-Facebook be-Facebook nako kungakhokelela kwimibuliso yokuzalwa engekho kubantu oye kubo kwisikolo samabanga aphantsi okanye wadibana nabo ethekweni kube kanye, ke ndiyayifaka apha.

Ngokwam, khange ndikucinge ukungabikho kwemibuliso yosuku lokuzalwa kuFacebook, kodwa ndiyazi ukuba abanye abantu bayabathanda nyhani ke ndiyayifaka njengempendulo yokuqonda ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ndibambalwa apha.

Into eyayimuncu kukuba usuku lwam lokuzalwa lwalukwimini enye nomngcwabo wosapho, ke ndaye ndabona uninzi losapho lwam kunye nabahlobo bam abaninzi ngesiqu. (Inqaku elisecaleni: Ukunika umbulelo yinto engaqhelekanga yokwenza ngomhla wakho wokuzalwa wama-30.)

Ukukruquka

Xa uFacebook wasungula Ekhaya, uMark Zuckerberg uthe abantu bachitha iipesenti ezingama-23 zexesha kwi-smartphone yabo besebenzisa i-Facebook. Andicingi ukuba ndichithe ixesha elininzi kuyo, kodwa bendijonga rhoqo. Xa ndingafakwanga mntu wonke, ndicime usetyenziso lweFacebook kwifowuni yam. Oko kwakuthetha ukuba ndinento enye encinci yokujonga xa ndijonga ifowuni yam.

Oko kunezibonelelo kunye nezinto ezingalunganga. Kwicala lokudibanisa, ndichitha ixesha elincinci kwifowuni yam. Oko kwakuthetha ukuba xa ndingenanto yimbi ngaphandle kokuchitha ixesha kwifowuni yam ndinendlela encinci yokuchitha ngayo. Ndiyaqonda ukuba ndisenokusebenzisa i-app kaFacebook ukujonga amaPhepha endiwathandayo, kodwa azikho kangako apho kufuneka ndihlala ndizijonga ukuze zihlaziywe.

Isiphelo

Ndinyanisile ukuba ukungatyhileki wonke umntu kuya kusombulula yonke imicimbi yam nge-Facebook. Kule veki kuye kwamnandi ukungabikho kwezicelo zomdlalo, ukumema izinto endingazukuya kuzo, kunye nokuhlaziya okungafakwanga ngabantu endingabaziyo. Ndiyazi ukuba ngelo xesha kuya kubakho iingxaki, kodwa ngekhe ndizithathe kancinci.

Ngaphambi kokuba ndibakhuphe bonke, ndandinabahlobo abangama-369 kuFacebook. Njengoko benditshilo kwizithuba zangaphambili, bendingengabo abahlobo bokwenene nabo bonke. Omnye wabahlobo bam bokwenyani bandixelela ukuba emva kweveki ndiza kuphinda ndongeze wonke umntu, endimxelele ukuba ngekhe ibenjalo. Nokuba ndigqibe kwelokuba ndibuyele ekubeni nabahlobo kuFacebook, andizukuphinda ndithumele wonke umntu.

Ukuqala kwam ukubhalisela iFacebook ndinomda wokuzikhethela wezihlobo ezili-100. Andikwazi ukugcina abahlobo behlabathi be-100, ndacinga, ngoko kutheni ndizama ukugcina ngaphezu kwe-intanethi? I-100 linani elingenakuphikiswa, kodwa into endigqibe ukuyenza kukugcina uluhlu oluqinileyo kakhulu lwabahlobo bakaFacebook.

Kwinqaku lam lokugqibela malunga novavanyo lwam kuFacebook, umfundi ozibiza ngokuba ngu-togo uphawule wathi:

Ndiyathanda ukucinga ukuba u-facebook wam kufuneka abe njengendlu. ndingavuya nabani ukusondela?

Ndicinga ukuba yindlela elungileyo yokujonga, kodwa ndingaphantsi kwezentlalo kunabantu abaninzi. Ngelixa ndingavumela uninzi lwabahlobo bam abangama-369 kuFacebook bangene endlwini yam, ndingadibanisa nje abo ndibangenise kwigumbi lam lokulala okanye eofisini yasekhaya. Khange ndize ngqo nenqobo yokugweba, kodwa ekugqibeleni ndiza kukhetha abahlobo bam bakaFacebook.

Kungaba nzima ngakumbi ukucacisa kubantu oqhelene nabo okanye izihlobo ezikude kutheni ndingafuni ukuba ngabahlobo babo kuFacebook, kodwa ndicinga ukuba kungakuhle ukuba uphinde ube nabahlobo bakaFacebook ngaphandle (ngethemba) lokujongana neqela yolwazi olungenantsingiselo lusasaza indlela yam.

Andiqinisekanga ncam ukuba ngubani oza kuphinda andongeze njengomhlobo kwakhona, kodwa kufanele ukuba ndiqale ngomfazi wam ukuze noko andidwelise njengeqabane lakhe kwakhona.

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