Qaphela: Eli nqaku liqulathe ezinye izinto ezonakalisa umculo kunye nomdlalo bhanyabhanya Ehlathini .
Xa ndandimncinci kakhulu, UStephen Sondheim ukhuphe umculo omtsha obanzi obizwa ngokuba yi-Broadway Ehlathini . Ukusukela ngaphambi kokuba ndikhumbule, ndiwuthandile lo mboniso! Ndilithandile ibali, umculo, kunye nokudityaniswa kwabalinganiswa abaziwayo beentsomi! Yonke yayichulumancisa kum xa ndandineminyaka emihlanu ubudala, kwaye ndamamela ikhasethi ekuphindaphindweni, de ndazi onke amagama ngentloko.
Kumboniso, umbhaki kunye nenkosikazi yakhe bafuna ngaphezulu kwayo nayiphi na into yokuba nomntwana, kodwa abakwazi ukukhulelwa. Isizathu sokungachumi kwabo, kungekudala bafunda, kukuba igqwirha libeka isiqalekiso kusapho lombhaki. Nangona kunjalo, igqwirha liyabaxelela, banokusaphula isiqalekiso ukuba bayamfumana bamzisele:
inkomo imhlophe njengobisi (UJack kunye neBeanstalk)
cape ebomvu njengegazi (Into yokuqabela encinci)
iinwele zimthubi njengombona (Rapunzel)
umtyibilizi njengegolide esulungekileyo (ICinderella)
Kwaye ke, ii-shenanigans zilandelwa de, ngokuphumelela, uJack abulale isigebenga, iRed Riding Hood ibulala ingcuka kwaye isindise uMakhulu, uRapunzel ubaleka enqabeni aze atshate inkosana yakhe, uCinderella uya ebholeni, aze atshate nenkosana yakhe, kwaye, ewe, abalinganiswa bethu abaphambili banikwa usana lwabo olude lufunwa! Kwaye bonke ngovuyo bacule:
Hayi ukuncwina hayi usizi
Ukuthantamisa kunye nokuhleka
Uvuyo namhlanje kunye nolonwabo ngomso
Kwaye ngonaphakade!
Emva koko ikhasethi iya kugqitywa-iziphelo ezivuyisayo kubo bonke!
Khawufane ucinge indlela endothuke ngayo xa, ndandineminyaka eli-9, ekugqibeleni ndaya kubona umdlalo weqonga! Ngokuqinisekileyo, isenzo sokuqala sahamba ngendlela endandisazi ngayo kwaye sagqitywa ngabalinganiswa abadanisa ngeenxa zonke eqongeni, bevuya becula emva koko!
Emva koko umbalisi wathi, 'Iyaqhubeka!'
Yima… YINTONI ??
Emva kwekhefu, yonke into yatshintsha. Isigebenga esinomyeni wakhe uJack sambulala kwisenzo sokuqala sasinomsindo omkhulu, kwaye abalinganiswa beentsomi baphoqeleka ukuba bajongane nengqumbo yakhe. Imitshato kaCinderella noRapunzel yayingekho ngaphandle kwengxabano. Ubuntu obuncinci obomvu buthathe indawo emnyama, yasemva koxinzelelo. Kwaye ngaphambi kokufikisa kum? Ewe, ndahlala apho, umlomo agape, njengoko iingcinga zam zeDisney zityhilwa phambi kwam.
Kuyavela ukuba itheyiphu yekhasethi endiyiphulaphuleyo inecala B akukho mntu wakha wandixelela ngalo. Kwaye, ndicinga ukuba, sisifaniso esikhulu sokukhula.
Emva kokonwaba nasemva koko
Ndiyakholelwa ethembeni. Ndiyakholelwa emaphupheni. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba iingcinga kufanelekile ukuzilandela, umngcipheko kufanelekile ukuba uzithathe, kwaye Ukuba sesichengeni sisitshixo sentliziyo epheleleyo .
Yonke le nto ithethwayo, njengoko ndithanda iimovie zabo, uDisney undixokisile. Mhlawumbi bakuxokisile, nabo. Ndifundile kwiimuvi zakudala zeDisney ukuba ukuba ndingahlala ndilinde, ngokuzolileyo ndinyamezele yonke into engathandekiyo ebomini bam, inkosana iza kuza, inditshayele ngeenyawo, sitshate, kwaye, ndicinga ukuba, yonke into emva koko iyakuba njalo idyllic kwakungafanelekanga nokuba ulandele.
UDisney akazange andifundise ngokubaluleka kwe- ukuzithemba ukusombulula ezam iingxaki, okanye ukumisela imida enovelwano ukuqinisekisa ukuba andinguye owasemnyango. Abazange bandifundise malunga ukuba ligorha lam ibali , kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo zange bandifundise malunga Abafazi babo bonke abantu besini .
Iziphumo zoku kukuba ndibona uninzi lwabasetyhini kwindlela yam yokusebenza abaye bancitshiswa. Balandele le fomyula kwaye baxhokonxa kwaye batyibilika njengo-Snow White noCinderella, kodwa nabona babalaseleyo kubo bonke ekugqibeleni kufuneka bajongane nezinto ezinje ngeekawusi phantsi, iintsana ezi-colicky, imibuzo yobunyani kunye nesazisi, ukungafani kwabo kunye neqabane labo ufuna ukulala ngesondo, uxinzelelo lwasekhaya elinamakhondo amabini, ucelomngeni kunye nokulahleka, kunye nomzabalazo owaneleyo, ukubala nje abambalwa.
Oku akuthethi ukuba ubomi bunzima. Kuthetha ukuba ubomi iqulethe Ubunzima, kwaye okusifumanayo ngala maxesha zezi:
- ingqiqo enamandla yokuzimela
- ukuziva uqhagamshelene nabantu obathandayo
Tshata uthando lobomi bakho-mhlawumbi inkosana yakho okanye inkosazana. Thatha umngcipheko. Yiba nesibindi kakhulu . Yiba sesichengeni. Ukuwa, ukutshabalalisa, kwaye ukhule womelele kumava. Phila ngamandla, ngovuyo, ngokuzimisela, nangethemba elingenakonakala.
Kodwa xa kukho imigibe kunye namacebo eSondheimian ebalini lobomi bakho, yazi ukuba kunjalo Inxalenye yebali lakho kwaye ukuba iintsomi-njengokuphela kokonwaba kulungile, zizinto zamabali.
(Ngokuhambelana nomda: Ukuze uhleke kakhulu, kuya kufuneka ujonge iVidiyo emva Emva kweDisney evela kuJon Cozart Apha kwaye Apha .)
UJennie Steinberg, i-LMFT, i-LPCC yingcali yamandla e-psychotherapist eDowntown Los Angeles. Uyakuthanda ukusebenza nabathengi abakwiihambo zokuzazisa, basebenzela ukuhlala ngokunyanisekileyo, benze izigqibo zobomi eziphambili, kunye nokuzakha ukuzithemba kwabo. Ungandwendwela iwebhusayithi yakhe ukwenza idinga okanye ufunde amanye amanqaku abhale kuwo http://www.jenniesteinberg.com .
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