URebecca Solnit uyazi yonke into malunga nokuchasana. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, nguye owaqamba eli gama kwisincoko sakhe sangoku sika-2008 Amadoda Ndicacisela izinto . Kuyabonakala ukuba ukusukela ngoko, imfuno yekota khange yehle kwaphela. Amadoda ayaqhubeka nokucacisa ukuba kutheni izimvo zakhe ziphosakele- bethatha ezabo izimvo eziyinyani- njengoko echaza kwaye ebonisa kwisincoko sakhe samva nje, Amadoda Achaza uLolita kum.
Yintoni uhlobo lokuhlekisa kukuba esi sincoko sokuchazwa gwenxa siyimveliso yesincoko awayibhalayo ukuphendula isiqwenga kodwa babecaciselwa ukuba. (Yabona? Ubukho besizwe buhlukumeza wonke umntu!) Yonke le nto yaqala nini Fumana iMagazini bapapasha uluhlu lwabo oluphindaphindiweyo, Iincwadi ezingama-80 ezigqwesileyo wonke umntu afanele azifunde , enika ukukhanyisa okugxekayo njengombhalo wokuba amadoda afunde uJohn Steinbeck Iidiliya Zomsindo kuba konke malunga netiti.
Ngokucacileyo uthathe umbandela ngoluhlu, hayi kuba kubonakala ngathi linyathelo elingaphezulu kweRascals encinci ' IKlabhu yamaNzondo yaBasetyhini , kodwa ngenxa yeencwadi ezingamashumi asibhozo ezidwelisiweyo, inye kuphela eyabhalwa ngumfazi (kwaye inye kuphela yindoda eyindoda engatshatanga), kwaye uninzi lweencwadi ezikuluhlu ngandlela thile zisebenza njengencwadi yemiyalelo kubudoda obunetyhefu.
USolnit uphendule ngale nto nge Iincwadi ezingama-80 Akukho bhinqa lifanele ukufundwa Uluhlu lweencwadi zobudoda ngolwimi esidleleni apho athi ekugqibeleni abantu mabafunde nantoni na abayifunayo, kwaye mhlawumbi bonke abafundi banokuncedwa ngcono ukuba bayaziphambanisa izinto abazifundayo, okanye bajonge kuzo ngokunzulu. Kwisiqwenga sakhe, kukho isahlulo apho akhankanya ngokufutshane uVladimir Nabokov's Lolita :
Ukuthetha ngemiyalelo yabasetyhini njengabantu abangasebenziyo, ukuqala kwam ukufunda Endleleni (engekho kolu luhlu, nangona kunjalo IiBums zeDharma is), ndiye ndaqonda ukuba le ncwadi ithathe ukuba uzichonge kunye nomlinganiswa ophambili oqinisekileyo ukuba unovakalelo kwaye unzulu njengoko eshiya umsebenzi omncinci waseLatina osebenza efama wazibandakanya nayo nakweyiphi na ingxaki ayenzileyo. Kucinga ukuba awuchongi kunye nalo mfazi uqobo, ongekho endleleni kwaye akaphathwa kakhulu njengayo nayiphi na into ngaphandle kokulahlwa okungafunekiyo. Ewe ndizichonge kunye naye, njengoko ndenzayo noLolita (kunye noLolita, loo msebenzi wobugcisa kaHumbert Humbert wokungabi novelwano, ukuluhlu lwe-Esquire olunenkcazo ye-coy). Ndamxolela uKerouac ekugqibeleni, nanjengoko ndixolele u-Jim Harrison ukuba aziphathe kakubi kwiphepha, kuba baneempawu ezihlangulayo. Kwaye kukho ubundlobongela obuphakathi malunga nelechery yakhe, ngokungafaniyo noCharles Bukowski noHenry Miller.
Elo kuphela kwexesha athetha ngalo Lolita kwisincoko siphela, ukanti eso sisahlulo samfumana oyena mntu ubuyela umva, ngokupheleleyo emadodeni.
USolnit ubalisa amava ngale ndlela:
Ndakhe ndakhaba indlwane yoonomathotholo ngenye imini, ngokuveza izimvo zobufazi malunga neencwadi. Yonke le nto yehlela eLolita. Ezinye zeenoveli zam endizithandayo zonakalisiwe ngendlela engekho nzulu. Ukufunda Lolita kwaye 'zichonge' ngomnye wabalinganiswa kukungaqondi ngokupheleleyo uNabokov, omnye umvakalisi wandazisa, nto leyo yandenza ndazibuza ukuba ikhona incwadi ebizwa Ukufunda uLolita kwi-Patriarchy . Uyazichonga noLolita ucacisa ukuba le yincwadi emalunga nomntu odlwengula umntwana ngokulandelelana kwisithuba seminyaka. Ngaba kuya kufuneka ufunde Lolita kwaye uphephe ngamandla ukuqaphela ukuba eli yiplani kwaye ngabalinganiswa?
Yonke into endiyithethileyo yileya, kanye njengokuba ndandichonge umlinganiswa ophathwa ngokungakhathali Endleleni , ke bendichonge kunye noLolita. [Incwadana] egxile kudlwengulo lomntwana othunjiweyo, kudala xa ndandikufutshane neminyaka yalomntwana yayisisikhumbuzo esincinci sendlela ihlabathi elinobutshaba ngayo, okanye mandithi amadoda akulo. Yintoni engonwabisiyo.
Hayi akunjalo. Ndikhumbula iimvakalelo zokugula endazifumana xa ndandiqala ukufunda Lolita phakathi kwiminyaka yam yeshumi elivisayo njengoko ndandizifumana ndivelana noHumbert Humbert kuphela ukuba ndikhumbule: ULolita mncinci kunam! Ayinamsebenzi ukuba uyadlala ngothando (kuba uHumbert umfundisile ukuba ukulukula kukuphela kwamandla anawo emhlabeni, angenamandla kwaphela), kuba umdala kwaye kufuneka azi ngcono! Angathini ukuba athethe ‘ngokumthanda’! Uyabutshabalalisa ubomi bakhe! Emuva nangaphambili bendihamba phakathi kokumangaliswa yile nto icekeceke kakuhle, kodwa ecekisekayo, kwaye ndizonda ukuba uDolores akazange afumane thuba lokuzithethela, okanye akukho mntu wabona 'ulwalamano' lwabo ukuba lwalunjani ngaphandle omnye oxhaphaza abantwana ngokwesini !
Ngayiphi na imeko, uSolnit usebenzisa amava akhe ngeempendulo kwisiqwenga sakhe ukuthetha ngento yokuba ngaphandle kwento ebonakala ngathi abaninzi bayakholelwa malunga nabantu ababhinqileyo, abantu abanemibala, okanye i-LGBTQ + - ukuba abahlekisi kwaye abanakho ukwenza ihlaya, bona jonga ulwaphulo-mthetho lokuthatha olungekhoyo ngenene, ukuba bafuna ikhowudi - ukuba kubonakala ngathi ithe tye, amadoda amhlophe ngawona ahlekisayo kwaye afuna ikhowudi, ngakumbi xa ubiza isimilo sabo.
USolnit ubhala athi:
IAtlantic, upapasho olungaqhelekanga olusuka kwinkqubela phambili ukuya ekuhleleni kunye nokubuyela umva kwakhona njenge-pendulum enzima kutsha nje yenze iqhekeza kwi -Coddling yeAmerican Mind. Isixelela ukuba, uJerry Seinfeld kunye noBill Maher bakugxekile esidlangalaleni ukugqwesa kwabafundi beekholeji, besithi uninzi lwabo alunakuthatha ihlaya, ngokucela kwaba bafana babini bamhlophe njengamagunya aqinisekileyo.
Kodwa nzulu, uyazi ukuba ngubani ongakwaziyo ukuthatha ihlaya? Abafana abamhlophe. Hayi ukuba iyabachaphazela kunye nendalo iphela, kwaye xa ubona umsindo, ubuncinci, ukunyibilika kunye nemithombo yeenyembezi zamadoda obushushu, ubona abantu ababelindele ngenene ukuba benze eyabo indlela kwaye baxelelwe ukuba bayamangalisa bonke ukutyhubela iintsuku.
Ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka ujonge Isiqwenga sikaSolnit ngokupheleleyo . Kulusizi ukuba maninzi amadoda angahoywanga kukuba kukho ezinye izimvo kwihlabathi, xa besiva umbhali / umgxeki owaziwayo njengoSolnit echonga umlinganiswa okanye ibali okanye umxholo hayi bona, iintloko zabo zibonakala ngathi ziyaqhuma kwaye imihlaba yabo ibonakala ngathi ijijeke ngokulula. Kunjengokungathi bakwazile ukujija amandla ehlabathi nangona begcwele.
Ngombulelo, kukho amadoda amaninzi angakwenziyo oko; abayiqondayo into yokuba umhlaba wenziwe ngaphezulu kokuqulathiweyo ngamava abo amxinwa. Ngombulelo, loo madoda awaxhomekekanga kumaphephancwadi afana ne-Esquire ukubaxelela ukuba bafunde ntoni.
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