Ngokuza ngokuziqhenya, kukho ingxoxo eninzi malunga nokuba ngubani ongowomcimbi. Endaweni yokugcinwa kwesango okuqhelekileyo okuchasene nabantu abangafakwanga kubandakanywa kwi-LGBTQ + spectrum, inexesha elininzi elinokwenza nekink kunye nokugqithisa ngokwesini kumsitho. Kukho abantu abafuna umnyhadala wolwalamano lobuhlobo. Oko kundenza ndizive ndinomsindo othusayo.
I-Stonewall Inn, imvelaphi yesizathu sokuba sonke sibhiyozele ukuzingca, yayiyindawo yoqhushululu lwase-Stonewall, indawo eyayihlala ithathwa ngabona bantu babekade bejongelwa phantsi ngelo xesha: ama-butch lesbibi, abafana abancinci, abarhola ookumkanikazi, indoda oonongogo, abantu abadlulayo, kunye nolutsha olungenamakhaya-abantu abathi, nangoku, basaphelele ekubeni semdeni wento ekufanele ukuba yindawo ebandakanyayo.
Abantu bajongwa njengabaphambukayo kwaye bengafanelekanga kwimibono yosapho-enobubele, naphakathi kwabanye abantu be-LG abababona njengophawu lwayo yonke into engalunganga ngenkcubeko yesini. I-Stonewall ayizange iqale ngamalungelo ama-gay okanye i-activism ye-gay, kodwa yayiyindawo ebalulekileyo ekujoliswe kuyo, njengowesifazane omnyama wesini, uyandikhumbuza ngembali ye-intersectional ekhoyo phakathi koluntu olukumazantsi.
I-Kink yinxalenye yaloo mbali nokuba iyenza ukuba abantu bangakhululeki, uluvo ekwabelwana ngalo ngabantu abaninzi, kubandakanya I-YouTuber Vaush eyaziwayo, othe kuTwitter, iKink kwiKratshi yenza abantu bangakhululeki kwaye yenza umsitho ungafikeleleki lula, xa ukufikeleleka kufanele kube yinto ephambili. Gcina izinto ezincinci zosapho ezonwabisayo kuninzi, iipatiyathi ezininzi ezikufutshane, kwiindawo zabucala yonke ikratshi elinalo. Inyani yokuba le nto iphikisanayo iyaphambana kum.
ISkylar Baker-Jordan isuka e Ezizimeleyo ubhale:
Ukuboniswa kwezesondo ngokugqithileyo- okanye kwiimeko ezigqithileyo, isini esidlangalaleni kunye nobunqunu-breech imida yencasa elungileyo kunye nesidima nanjengoko ikratshi lisolula into engamkelekanga. Ikwahlukanisa amalungu oluntu lwethu athobekileyo, aneenkcaso zokuziphatha okanye zefilosofi (njengoko uninzi lwabasetyhini lusenza), abanabantwana, okanye abangafuniyo ukuthatha inxaxheba kubomi bakho bezesondo njengabahambi abangathandiyo. I-BDSM kunye nemiboniso yekink ithintela uninzi lwethu ukuba lungayi, kubandakanya abahlobo bam be-LGBT kunye nabantwana bam abancinci. Ikratshi kufuneka libe lelomntu wonke kuluntu lwe-LGBT. Ukuze oko kwenzeke, kufuneka kubekwe imida kwaye ihlonitshwe.
U-Baker-Jordan ugqiba kwelokuba ikratshi kufuneka ligcine kugxile kubantu be-LGBT kunye namalungelo ethu, ukulingana, kunye nenkululeko-hayi kumntwana ongabandakanya abantu abathe tye kwaye ahlukanise amanye amalungu oluntu lwethu. Ilungu ngalinye loluntu lwethu nabo bonke abantu esidibana nabo, ukusukela ebantwaneni ukuya kubantu abadla umhlala-phantsi, kufanele ukuba babenako ukubhiyozela inkanuko yesini sabo okanye isini ngaphandle kokunyanzelwa ukuba bathathe inxaxheba kubomi bomnye umntu ngokwesondo.
Andivumelani ngentlonelo.
Ilifa lelo lungelo, ukulingana kunye nenkululeko kubandakanya ikink. Oku kubandakanya abantu abafuna ukubhiyozela isini sabo ngokuphandle, ukuba ingagcinwa kwigunjana. Abantu abathe tye banokuziqhelanisa nezinto zekink, nabo, kodwa masingazenzi ngathi i-kink ye-gay ayiphathwa ngendlela eyahlukileyo kwaye inembali yayo yokujongela phantsi abantu ekufuneka bekwazile ukuyifumana ekuziphakamiseni.
Abantu abathe tye kunye namahlakani kunye neenkampani zithathe ixesha kunye nexesha kwakhona kwiQhosha. Kuya kubakho i-TERFS kwi-Pride engabandakanyi iinyani zabantu ababalulekileyo abahlelelekileyo kuluntu lwethu. Ulutsha lwe-LGBTQ olungenakhaya alunakuncediswa ngokuziqhenya. Iya kuba ngumnyhadala apho ookopolotyeni baya kuxhaphaza, kunye noJuni wonke ukuba bathi bangamadlelane noluntu lwethu ngelixa besebenzisa iidola zabo kwiminqweno yabo.
Abantwana abangamaGay baneendlela ezininzi zokuzifumanisa ngakumbi kunangaphambili, kwaye yinto entle leyo. Kodwa loo nto ayenzi ukuba iKratshi ibe ngumhla wokubonga. Banokuya xa sele bebadala ngokwaneleyo ukuba bakwazi ukuba neengxoxo ezinolwazi nomntu omdala abamthembayo malunga nokwabelana ngesondo, apho wena njengomzali okanye umgcini womntu unokuchaza ukuba yintoni imvume. Olo luxanduva lomzali.
Ungayichazanga inkoliso yabantu abathatha inxaxheba kwikink baya kubhiyozela oko ngokunxiba ngesikhumba, ukuphatha imvubu, mhlawumbi nokubonisa iimpundu zabo. Andihambanga unyaka omnye kwiKratshi ndingakhange ndibone abantu abangenakubalwa abangenasiphelo kunye neengono ezigutyungelwe ipasti. Esi siganeko asiyondawo yezilwanyana; ayisiyondawo yokujonga abantu abathandana nabathandanayo endle. Ngumbhiyozo wombhodamo oqhubekayo.
Ukuba abantu babelana ngesondo esidlangalaleni, into engekho mthethweni, ewe, kufanele ukuba kuyekwe, kodwa ukwenza ngathi ukuthintela ukubhiyozelwa kwekink kwiKratshi kufanele kube yinto ephambili xa iTennesee iqhubele phambili nge-anti-trans bill yinkcitho nje. ixesha. Le ntetho yenzeka minyaka le kwaye iba yityhefu kuphela.
Kwaye kwirekhodi, kulungile ukuba singavumelani malunga noku, kodwa mhlawumbi singanqanda ukubiza abantu abafuna ootata besikhumba kwiiProphiophies zokuzidla, kuba leyo yindlela elula yokuvala ingxoxo.
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