Kubekho isikhukhula samabali samva nje esiphefumla ngaphandle sigubungela isigqibo somlingisi uCameron Diaz sokutshata xa wayeneminyaka (41! Shock! Awe! Gasp!) Yonke iminyaka engama-41 ubudala. Yilungele ukubamba iiparele zakho.
UDiaz ebethetha kwiqela lenjongo yeGoop's Wellness Summit eCalifornia, umsitho oququzelelwe kwindawo yokuphila yeGwyneth Paltrow / yehlelo lokuphila kakuhle elinamava ngotyelelo lombhali olungaqhelekanga lukaLindy West, UGwyneth Paltrow uvutha njenge-radioactive swan .
Kwi-onstage, uDiaz wachaza ukukhetha kwakhe emva kwexesha emtshatweni, nangona kungekho shishini lomntu: ndicinga ukuba yinto yokuba ndingadibananga nomyeni wam, uyazi? Ndandinamasoka ngaphambili. Kwaye kukho umahluko ngokwenyani, ohluke ngokwenene phakathi kwamadoda nabafana. Kwaye ndinomyeni ongumlingane wam nje ebomini nakuyo yonke into.
UDiaz watshata UCharlotte olungileyo isiginci uBenji Madden ngo-2015. Mazel tov! Esona sizathu sokuba sithethe ngomtshato wakhe konke konke kungenxa yokuba iisayithi zemithombo yeendaba ezininzi ziyafana Ukuzonwabisa ngokuhlwanje Ndinyanzelisa ekunikezeleni isicatshulwa esingentla kunye nomlingisi, Ngokulinda de abe kumashumi amane eminyaka ukuze abophe iqhina ...
Ngaba ezinye iinketho ezimbalwa eziphambili? Namhlanje : UCameron Diaz utyhila ukuba kutheni elinde de abe ngu-41 ukutshata. Ukucokisa 29 Umxholo: Isizathu esivuyisayo uCameron Diaz uthi Walinda ukuba atshate. Umzimba wenqaku: Kwiminyaka engama-42 ubudala, abanye bakuthatha oku njengexesha elide lokulinda ngaphambi kokubopha iqhina. Iindaba.co.au : Kutheni uCameron Diaz anyamalala eHollywood kwaye walinda ixesha elide ukuba atshate. Iindaba zeFox : UCameron Diaz ucacisa ikhefu laseHollywood, kutheni elinde de kube yi-41 ukuba atshate. ELLE UK : UCameron Diaz uyavuma esona sizathu sokuba ashiye iHollywood kwaye kwakutheni ukuze angatshati kude kube ngamashumi amane eminyaka. USA Namhlanje : UCameron Diaz utyhila ukuba kutheni elinde ukutshata, ngokungathi yinto efanelekileyo ukuba yintloko ngo-2017, ngokungathi ukhetho lwakhe lwaluyimfihlo egcinwe ngokuhlazo. Ukuqhubeka nokuqhubekeka.
Ukunyaniseka, esinye sezizathu zokuba esi sityhilelo sibe sisihloko sokwenza umdla kwimithombo yeendaba kukuba uDiaz wabuzwa ngokungqalileyo malunga nayo kwiphaneli yeGoop nguPaltrow (okuhlekisayo, mhlawumbi, kuba uPaltrow wafaka umbono woku ukudibanisa okungaziyo ukusuka kowakhe umtshato ukuya Udlalo olubandayo' UChris Martin, kodwa nantoni na). Ukusuka ELLE UK :
'Cameron, watshata kamva,' utshilo uGwyneth. ‘Yintoni le ikwenza ukuba ungatshati de ube uneminyaka engama-40?’
‘Amashumi amane ananye,’ uCameron wamlungisa ngembeko umhlobo wakhe.
Ke zininzi izinto eziqhubekayo apha. Inye, abasetyhini-nabafazi abangabahlobo bethu-banokondla kulindelo lwasentlalweni oludlulileyo lokuba kukho ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuba umfazi atshate, okanye ade atshate konke konke. Kwaye ela xesha, nangona lihamba lingachazwanga apha, kuyabonakala ukuba yeyona nto iphambili kulutsha oluchumileyo. Intoni igcinwe ukutshata, Gwyneth? Akukho nto ngaphandle kwenkqubo yakhe yokuthatha izigqibo, enkosi kakhulu. Okwesibini, akukho mntu ubonakala eyazi ukuba uCameron Diaz wayeneminyaka emingaphi ukutshata kwakhe, njengoko sibonile ukuba sintanta singama-40, 42, kwaye silungiswa ngembeko nguDiaz saya kuma-41. Onke amajelo eendaba abonakala evumelana kukuba i-Diaz yayiqhelekile ubudala bokuba inenekazi elitshatileyo, kuba sonke kubonakala ngathi sihlala eJane Austen Ukweyisela .
Kuzo zonke iinjongo kunye neenjongo, uDiaz wonwabile ngokumangalisayo emtshatweni wakhe : Ndinomyeni ongumlingane wam nje ebomini nakuyo yonke into. Thetha ngabantu ababini abahluke ngokupheleleyo! Sahluke kakhulu omnye komnye, kodwa sabelana ngamaxabiso afanayo-sizizibini zombini ii-ertyisi kwipod. Sobabini sinqabile ngokwaneleyo omnye komnye.
Kwaye mhlawumbi le Inqaku elincinci lenze igalelo ekubeni kutheni yena, oyintshatsheli enkulu kwihlabathi liphela engamashumi eminyaka, wakhetha ukungasusi isandla sakhe komnye umntu esemncinci? Singabafazi sichaswe kakhulu. Ngandlel 'ithile umyeni wam sele enako ukundibonisa ukuba kunjani ukungabinayo loo nto iyinxalenye yolwalamano, kwaye ulingane.
Kudos kuBenji Madden ngokunyanga umfazi wakhe, uphawu lwesondo ukusukela ekuphendukeni kwakhe okudumileyo ngo-1998 Kukho Into NgoMariya , apho atyibilika khona emadodeni ngeenwele zakhe, ngokulinganayo, kwaye engamjongi ngendlela iHollywood ebinayo iminyaka. Oku kufanele ukuba kube yinto emiselweyo kunye nesiqhelo. Ndonwabile ukuba uDiaz noMadden bafumaneke.
Ingxaki apha ayisekho kwiminyaka yokutshata kukaDiaz kodwa umgangatho ophindaphindiweyo: wagqibela nini ukubona amashumi amabini + eendaba ekhokela amabali abo ngombuzo onomtsalane wokuba kutheni inkwenkwe eyindoda okanye umntu woluntu wayengekatshati kwiminyaka yabo? Impendulo phantse ayisoze, ngaphandle kokuba i-dude ingena ngesiquphe, ekukhanyeni okanye ekuqaqambeni. Nokuba kunjalo, ibonakaliswa njenge-coy kunye ne-rakish yokuhamba egameni labo. Kwaye kukho irubhi.
Umtshato sisigqibo esinzulu esingafanele kugwetywa okanye sigwetywe nangubani na ngaphandle kwesibini esichaphazelekayo. Ewe kunjalo, oku kuyaphambuka ngokubanzi ngenxa yokulindelwa kwenkcubeko kumazwe ahlukeneyo, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba ayingombandela ongafanelekanga ukuba ubuzwe ngokungapheliyo kwaye ubuyiselwe umva. Ngaphandle kokunyanzeliswa yimithombo yeendaba, asisahlali kwihlabathi njengoko kuyalelwa ngabantu abanjengoAusten Ukweyisela , apho iqhawekazi u-Anne Elliott wayegqalwa njengentombazana endala engatshatanga eneminyaka engama-27. Ndiyabulela kuThixo. Kodwa ngaphandle kophando lwam, khange ndikwazi ukumfumana umthetheli wobudala uCaptain Frederick Wentworth. Ungumfo othandana no-Anne, kodwa yakhe ubudala ayinamsebenzi kwinoveli. Yakhe kuphela eyenzayo. NguCameron Diaz kuphela owenza apha.
Ukusukela ebuntwaneni, andikaze ndifune ukutshata. Ndifumane ebharini, kwaye mhlawumbi ndiza kukuxelela ukuba ndiyakholelwa ukuba liziko elidala elidlulileyo elisekwe kwinto eyayiyiyo, ngokwembali, izivumelwano zezemali zesini kunye neenkqubo zobukhoboka. Uninzi lwembali, umtshato wawungenanto yakwenza nothando nayo yonke into enokuyenza ngobunini kunye nokusemthethweni kwembewu. Kodwa iimvakalelo zam zemihla yangoku ndim, umntu omnye, uluvo lwam. Andikhuliswanga kwikhaya eliqhelekileyo kwaye khange lenzelwe into enkulu kum, kwaye ndiyakuqonda ngokupheleleyo ukuba ayisiyiyo indlela abantu abaninzi abavakalelwa ngayo. Ngaphezulu kwesiqingatha sakho UMary Sue Abasebenzi batshatile bonwabile, kwaye ngekhe ndonwabe kubo.
Izinto endizilindeleyo kum azindivimbanga ekubeni ndonwabe kubahlobo bam kwimitshato yabo kwaye ndikhonza njengebhongo kwintombi. Ndiyakholelwa nzulu ekulinganeni emtshatweni, kuba njengoko uluntu lumi, ubuncinci eMelika, umtshato unika izibini amalungelo asemthethweni njengamaqabane nabazali, kunye neebhonasi zentlalo ezingekhoyo. Ndadanisa ezitratweni ngaphandle kweStonewall xa iNkundla ePhakamileyo yagweba ukuba umtshato wabantu besini esinye ngumthetho welizwe.
Umtshato u-A-OK kunye nam ukuba yile nto inqwenelwa yintliziyo yakho, kwaye wonke umntu kufuneka abe nelungelo lokutshata umnqweno wentliziyo yakhe. Inqaku ayikokugweba amabanga emfundo malunga nokhetho lobuqu olukhulu. Yinkulungwane yama-21, kwaye kufuneka, ngoku, siqhubeke nembono yokuba kukho iwindow encinci yexesha xa ichanekile okanye ilungile okanye kulindeleke ukuba utshate, ngakumbi ukuba uchonga njengomfazi. Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokutshata kwaphela.
UCameron Diaz, eqongeni kunye noontanga bakhe kunye nabaphulaphuli abathandayo, mhlawumbi unokubuzwa ukuba yintoni eyenza ubudlelwane bakhe noBenji Madden busebenze, kodwa akukho nto malunga nobudala athe wagqiba ekubeni abhale phantsi. Akukho xesha lichanekileyo lokutshata. Akukho sazisi sisini esifanelekileyo kuwe okanye kwiqabane lakho nitshate phantsi. Ukuba umtshato yinto yakho. Umtshato akufuneki ube yinto yakho. Kodwa inokuba njalo kwaye kufanele ukuba njalo, nokuba umntu uthini na.
Kwaye ukuba nditshintsha ingqondo, kuba wonke umntu angatshintsha iingqondo zakhe, kwaye ndikhethe ukutshata xa ndineminyaka engama-42 okanye engama-102, ndiyathemba ukuba uza kudanisa emtshatweni wam.
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