Xa kufikwa ekubonakaliseni izibini ezitshatileyo ezichanekileyo ezinabantwana, umabonwakude kunye nomdlalo bhanyabhanya ohlekisayo ushiya okuninzi okunqwenelekayo. Rhoqo, abantu ababhinqileyo benziwa njengabafazi, kwaye abayeni baziswa ngoo-buffoon abanjengomntwana, abangakwaziyo ukuba ngabazali abanenkathalo, abakulungele ngakumbi ukonwaba kunokuba babekele abantwana babo imida. Ngenxa yoko, oomama baphuma njengabanyanzelisiyo, kodwa befuneka kakhulu, kwaye ootata baphuma njengomnye wabantwana (cinga Usapho lwale mihla ’ s UClaire noPhil Dunphy kwezona zihlandlo zibanzi).
Njengomfundisi-ntsapho wobufazi kunye nomama osebenzayo ngokuthe ngqo, ndinexhala lokulinganisa umsebenzi kunye nobomi basekhaya, malunga nokwabelana ngomthwalo nomyeni wam, kwaye malunga nokuba zeziphi iintlobo zemiyalezo le mizobo yokuba ngumzali nomtshato esiyithumela kuthi nakubantwana bethu malunga nendlela izinto zinjalo. Ndifundisa abafundi bam ukuba bahlalutye ngokunzulu iLean Incebiso ka-Sheryl Sandberg kunye no-Ann-Marie Slaughter kwisigqibo esidumileyo sokuba abasetyhini abanakuba nayo yonke into kwaye kufuneka bafunde ukuzincama.
Emva koko, bagoduka baye kufunda kumdlalo kamabonakude ukuba oomama bathwele yonke imithwalo yengqondo kwaye ibenza babe neurotic, ngelixa ootata bengaphathanga namnye kuyo, kwaye bangabadlali bebhola. Njengechiza kulo myalezo, Iimpawu ezimangalisayo 2 ibonakala njengenqaku elothusayo ngokumangalisayo kubunzima bokulinganisa ukukhulisa abantwana kunye nekhondo lomsebenzi, ubunzima obubeka kuwo omabini amaqabane, kunye nolonwabo olunokuzisa naphakathi koxinzelelo. Iimpawu ezimangalisayo 2 uyifumana ngokuchanekileyo.
Xa u-Elastigirl ebuyela emsebenzini ngokusisigxina, ucinga ukuba akabalulekanga kusapho. Unexhala lokuba uViolet uzulazula kubomi bakhe bokufikisa obuzayo, imizabalazo yezifundo zikaDash, kunye nemfuno kaJack Jack yokuqwalaselwa rhoqo. Siyambona ehamba ngendlela eyiyo kwaye inzima: Ufuna ukubuyela kwikhondo alifumanayo aneliseka, kodwa yena kanjalo ufuna ukubakhona nabantwana bakhe, kwizilingo kunye novuyo lokukhula. Uthatha ukuba umyeni wakhe akanakufezekisa indima yakhe ekhaya, nakwikhredithi yemovie, ujika engalunganga, kwaye uyayivuma impazamo yakhe.
Kananjalo nakwikhredithi yemovie, ayikaze izame ukumbonisa njengowenza konke supermom, nangona eyigorha lokoqobo. Endaweni yoko, kubonisa ukuba uphoxekile kuba ephose umzuzu obalulekileyo ekhaya (ndiphosile amandla okuqala kaJack Jack?) Kwaye andikwazi ukubakhona kubantwana bakhe ngendlela afuna ngayo (Umama akanakuthetha ngoku, uDash, njengoko ebhabha ezitalatweni ngesithuthuthu esikhulu ukuzama ukumisa uloliwe obalekileyo). Akaze abenemincili okanye ahlaziyeke okanye ajike abe yenye yeendlela eziqhelekileyo zomama. Ulungile emsebenzini wakhe kwaye uyabathanda kwaye uyabaxhasa abantwana bakhe. Ngobuntu bakhe, sibona ubunzima bokwenyani ajongana nabo umama xa ebuyela emsebenzini, kubandakanya isidingo sokuthembela ngokwenene kwiqabane lakhe nasekuthembeleni kubuchule bakhe njengomzali.
Ukuba u-Elastigirl luphuculo olukhulu koomama abahlekisayo, uMnu Incredible unjalo, njengoko uViolet eyibeka kamnandi, umboniso omkhulu katata. Uyathandana ngokugqibeleleyo malunga nokubukela inkosikazi yakhe isiya kwenza umsebenzi weqhawe, into naye ayifumanayo iyanelisa, kodwa uyaqonda ukuba, kule meko, kufuneka angenelele kwaye awuthwale umthwalo wasekhaya ukulungelana nosapho. kunye nomtshato wabo. Njengokuba simbukele esokola kwezi zinto zintsha, lo mboniso bhanya-bhanya uhamba kakuhle kakhulu-usinika intlekisa njengoko esebenza ukuze afumane indima yakhe entsha njengomzali, kodwa ayikhe imveze njengomntu ongenabuchule.
Zisuka nje, uyazi ukondla unyana wakhe ukutya okuziinkozo okungenaswekile, uyaqinisekisa ukuba ubhaka wonke umntu upakishwe esikolweni, kwaye uyaqonda ukuba umntwana ngamnye ufuna uhlobo olwahlukileyo lwenkxaso kwaye uzama ukubanika oko bakufunayo. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, njengabo bonke abazali bobomi bokwenyani, ngamanye amaxesha uyazikrokrela. Kwelinye lawona maxesha okwenyani kwifilimu, uxelela omnye wabantwana, ndiqhelene nokwazi, kodwa ngoku ndiyavuma ukuba akaqinisekanga.
Oko, kumava am, ukuba ngumzali ngamafutshane. Ifilimu ayimshiyi kule meko yokungaqiniseki, nangona. Endaweni yoko, ibonisa ukuba ucinga ukuba angayilawula njani imisebenzi yasekhaya kaDash, axolise kuViolet xa ejija ubomi bakhe bothando, kwaye-uphuhliso olubalulekileyo ekunikezelweni kwabazali bakamabonwakude ngokubanzi-ukuthembela kwabanye ngenkxaso xa eyidinga. Simbona elangazelela ukubuyela kwikhondo lakhe lomsebenzi kodwa elithanda nexesha lakhe nabantwana bakhe. Ungutata obalaseleyo, ungumyeni obalaseleyo, kwaye abantwana bakhe kunye nenkosikazi yakhe bayayivuma loo nto.
Iimpawu ezimangalisayo 2 ayonwabisi nje, ibalulekile. Ibonisa usapho olunye olungaqhelekanga lokuhamba ngesiqhelo, umzabalazo wemihla ngemihla, kwaye ikwenza oko ngendlela eyiyo kwaye elungeleleneyo. Inika ingxoxo engacacanga malunga nomsebenzi wobomi obulinganayo kunye nomthwalo wengqondo, wokuba ngumzali kunye nomtshato, kuninzi lweetekisi zokugqibela kulo mbandela, kwaye kuyahlekisa-ngokuhlekisayo.
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U-Becca Burnett ufundisa isiNgesi, isini, kunye nezifundo zosasazo emini kwaye ubukele uninzi lweqhawe eliphambili libonisa ebusuku. Ungumama wabantwana ababini anethemba lokubakhulisa benengqondo efanayo, enobuqili, kunye nengcinga enomdla ngobomi ayithandayo ekufundeni kwiMary Sue.
