UWill Smith (46) kunye noMargot Robbie (24) kwi Gxila .
Xa ndadibana nomyeni wam, ndandineminyaka engama-29 kwaye yena wayeneminyaka engama-43. Ndandisandula ukuphuma kulwalamano nomfana olingana nam. Usapho kunye nabahlobo bam bathabatheka xa ndazisa isoka lam elitsha, kuba iminyaka eli-14 yayibonakala ngathi ingumahluko omkhulu kubudala. Kodwa khange ive nyani ngeloxesha, kwaye kule minyaka sitshatile, kuvakale ngathi sisondele kwaye sisondele kubudala.
Kodwa ngaba oku kundenza ndifune ukubona abadlali abaneminyaka engama-43 ubudala bebambene nabalingisi abaneminyaka engama-29 ubudala kwimovie nganye esiyijongileyo?
Akunjalo.
Kudala ndifunda amanqaku amaninzi malunga nezibini zeHollywood zika-Meyi-Disemba mva nje. Kwaqala xa uMaggie Gyllenhaal exelelwa ukuba eneminyaka engama-37, wayemdala kakhulu ukuba angadlala umdla wothando lomntu oneminyaka engama-55 ubudala. Emva koko kwabakho iingxoxo malunga nesithuba seminyaka eli-17 sikaScarlett Johansson noMark Ruffalo kwi Abaphindezeli: Ubudala be-Ultron. Emva koko kwafika isiqwenga seXhalanga, Ukuthelekisa iminyaka emithathu yabasetyhini abanokubambisa kakhulu kukhokelela kwiminyaka yabadlali abaye babhangqwa nabo.
Kwaye oko kuzise ukubuyela umva okungenakuphepheka. Ndibonile amagqabantshintshi amaninzi ahamba ngoluhlobo: kukho umsantsa weminyaka eli-10 phakathi kweqabane lam kunye nam, kwaye ndiyakhubekiswa sesi sikhalazo, kuba ucebisa ukuba ubudlelwane phakathi kweminyaka yobudala buyenyanyeka.
Oko kuyasilela kwinqanaba.
Mna nomyeni wam asiyonto iqhelekileyo. Ngokobalo luka-2013 , kuphela ziipesenti ezi-4.8 zabantu abatshatileyo abatshatileyo kubandakanya umyeni oneminyaka eli-10-15 ubudala kunomfazi, kwaye ipesenti enye ibandakanya umfazi oneminyaka eli-10-14 ubudala kunendoda. Uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo (malunga neepesenti ezingama-53) abatshata abantu abatshatileyo kwisithuba seminyaka engama-1-3 omnye komnye. (Ayothusi into yokuba andikwazanga ukufumana idatha eninzi malunga nokungafani kweminyaka yobudala bomtshato wesini esifanayo, kodwa umgca kumgca Ingxelo yobalo-bantu ukususela ngo-2009 kubonakala ngathi bacebisa ukuba abantu abatshatileyo abathandanayo balandela ukungalingani kobudala obufanayo njengezibini ezitshatileyo, kunye nesibini esiqhelekileyo esinonyaka omnye okanye emibini ubudala.)
Ngokumangalisayo, ngokwenza ulwalamano phakathi kwabantu abadala-abesilisa nabancinci-ababhinqileyo njengesiqhelo, iHollywood isenza kube nzima ngakumbi kum ukubona izibini ezifana nomyeni wam nam. Ngoba? Kuba, izibini esizibonayo kwiscreen zihlala zingaboniswanga njengezibini zeminyaka yobudala. Uninzi lwazo luboniswa njenge-Everycouple. Uvele nje abonakale ngathi ukwi-20s yakhe, kuba yile nto yonke umfazi kufuneka abukeke, akunjalo?
Ukuba uyindoda ekhokelayo, uyindoda ekhokelayo ngonaphakade. UHugh Grant, uRobert Downey Omnci kunye noWill Smith- ngaphezulu kweminyaka engama-45- basaqhubeka ukukhokela. Kodwa khumbula xa uCameron Diaz wayeyinkokeli yabasetyhini kuyo yonke into? Uneminyaka engama-40 ngoku, kwaye andikhumbuli ndagqibela ukumbona kumuvi. Cinga ngabo bonke abadlali ababeneminyaka eli-10 eyadlulayo: UJennifer Aniston, uAngelina Jolie, uJennifer Garner. Asisaziboni kangako ngoku njengoko sazenzayo nge'-00s. Ngoku jonga abafana. Sibona uLeonardo DiCaprio kunye noBrad Pitt njengangaphambili. Oku akuthethi nje ukuba abadlali abanetalente abangaphezulu kweminyaka engama-30 abafumani msebenzi ekufuneka bewufumene, kukwathetha ukuba abanye abantu basetyhini, abo kuthi bebebukele iifilimu ezinje ngobomi bethu bonke, ngoku kholwa, Kwinqanaba elithile, ukuba sonke kufuneka sijonge kwaye siziphathe ngokungathi sinama-25, nokuba sino-42.
Ayilunganga kwabasetyhini, ayifanelekanga kubadlali beqonga, kwaye, ukunyaniseka, ayenzi nanye into elungileyo kubantu abakubudlelwane be-gap-age, nokuba. Njengomntu onobudlelwane obuzinikeleyo kunye nendoda endala, ndingathanda, kube kanye, ndibone imuvi ebonisa ubudlelwane be-gap yobudala.
Ngokwenyani ligama eliphambili apha, kuba amaxesha ngamaxesha, xa ubudlelwane beminyaka yobudala buboniswa kwiscreen, bayathandwa. Cinga ngemicimbi engonwabisiyo yabakwishumi elivisayo ukuya kwiminyaka yobudala efana naleyo ikuyo Ilahlekile kuNguqulo , okanye kwi Kwihlabathi leMimoya , okanye nantoni na efotwe nguWoody Allen kule minyaka ingama-30 idlulileyo. (Ukugqibela kwakhe kubandakanya uprofesa ukuthandana nomfundi ngubani ke onyanga ukungabi namandla , kuba kunjalo Kubonakala ngathi, nanini na xa umboniso bhanya-bhanya uvuma ubudlelwane phakathi kweminyaka, umahluko wobudala kufuneka ube mkhulu, iqabane eliselula lihlala lingowasetyhini, kwaye imicimbi ejongwayo ihlala i-super-male-gazey. Umzekelo: umncinci kwaye ushushu, ke woyika ukuba uyakumshiya umfana oshushu oshushu njengoko esokola nokungabi namandla. Faka iViagra joke oyikhethileyo kwaye unefilimu yeminyaka yobudala. Okanye uneefilimu ezinje Abaphumeleleyo okanye Inkwenkwe elandelayo , ezibonisa ukukhokelela kwamadoda amancinci kunye ne-cougar-like female lead kwaye enye yazo ixhaphaza enye.
Oku akubonakalisi ubudlelwane obunempilo phakathi kwe-gap, iHollywood.
Nantsi into malunga nolwalamano lokwenyani lobudala: kukho imiba ethile ehamba nayo. Andithethi ngokungabi namandla, ukukhutshwa xa iifilimu zenziwe malunga neminyaka yobudala. Ndithetha ngemicimbi engacacanga, njengenkcubeko. Umyeni wam wafika sele eneminyaka eyi-70s, ke, umzekelo, ukuqonda kwakhe kwahluke kakhulu kunam. Xa sineengxoxo malunga nendlela yokukhulisa unyana wethu, ndiye ndizifumane ndijamelene nokungqubana phakathi kwexabiso leBoomer kunye neGen X. Oku kufikelela kubudlelwane bethu netekhnoloji: ungowokufika kwidijithali. Unexhala malunga nokuba loluphi ulwazi endilubeka kwi-intanethi kwikhondo lam lomsebenzi njengombhali ozimeleyo. Sihlala sixoxa ngezi zinto, siqinisekisa ukuba sikwiphepha elinye.
Ke kukho inyani yokuba ubomi bam bubaleka iminyaka eli-14 ngasemva kwakhe. Undijongile ndijongana nemicimbi kunye nokungaqiniseki esele ejongane nako, kwaye ndiqinisekile ukuba inokuba yinto ephazamisayo. Okwangoku, ndinexhala ngempilo yakhe, kwaye sobabini sikhathazekile malunga nokucwangciswa kwezindlu, kuba kusenokwenzeka ukuba ngenye imini, ngokukhawuleza kunokuba ndingathanda, uya kundandulela.
Kum, oku kubiza ntoni ukutshata noyena mntu ubalaseleyo emhlabeni. Kodwa amaxhala ayinyani, kwaye ndingathanda ukuzibona zibonisiwe kwiscreen.
Ubudlelwane obusempilweni, obuvunyiweyo beminyaka yobudala yinto endinqwenela ukuyibona kube kanye. Ndithetha ngokudibanisa njengabo sibabona ngalo lonke ixesha kwiscreen, njengoBradley Cooper noEmma Stone, kwi Aloha , okanye njengoJohansson kunye noRuffalo kwi Ubudala be-Ultron . Izikhewu apho iqabane eliselula liphume kakuhle ebusheni, kwaye ukuba umntu omdala okhokelayo unemicimbi, ayizizo zonke i-penile. Qhubeka, abenzi beefilimu, abadlali beqonga abaneminyaka eli-17 umahluko wobudala rhoqo emva kwethuba, kodwa yamkele ukuba umahluko wobudala ukho kwifilimu uqobo. Musa ukuyihoxisa. Ungayifaki. Yamkele nje.
Ixesha eliseleyo, xa usenza i-rom-com malunga nobuhlobo obuqhelekileyo beMovie, apho wonke umntu engacacanga kwiminyaka yabo yama-20 okanye eyi-30? Zama ukuphosa izikhokelo ezimbini kwi-20s yabo okanye i-30s yokuqala. Mhlawumbi uphambene kwaye uphose izikhokelo ezimbini kwi-40s yabo. Yiloo nto uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo abatshatileyo bajongeka ngathi, emva kwayo yonke loo nto.
Iqabane lomhleli kweli qhekeza lineminyaka eli-12 ubudala kuye, kwaye uyavuma kuwo onke amanani.
A.J. U-O'Connell yintatheli ezizimeleyo kwaye umbhali . Incwadi yakhe yokuqala, Lumka iHawk, yapapashwa ngo-2012. Uye wenza igalelo kwiNcwadi yoQhushululu nakwiGeek Eccentric. A.J. Uhlala eConnecticut nomyeni wakhe, unyana wakhe, inja, ikati kunye nentlanzi emthiyileyo. Usuku lwakhe olufanelekileyo lubandakanya ukubhala okuninzi kweentsomi, ikofu eninzi kunye nokuhlekisa ngakumbi kunokuba enokufikelela. Ubhala malunga nokubhala kunye nobufazi kwibhlog yakhe, igallconnell.com . Mlandele kuTwitter ku @iamfanlalisa .
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