Ndadibana naye unyaka wam wokugqibela ekholejini. Mde, umnyama, mhle, uyathandwa, unetalente, uyathetha, kwaye uyathandeka kakhulu, ndaye ndenza isijwili kuye phantse kwangoko. Kodwa, bendisazi kumongo wam ukuba umntu onje ngam akanakuze abe nomntu onje yena . Andizange ndihambe kwiindawo zakhe zasezulwini; Ndandingalifanelanga ixesha lakhe okanye ingqalelo. Ndizazi ukuba ndingaphantsi kwakhe.
Ke, xa ndandikwiminyaka yam encinci waqala ukundikhathalela, ndandingoyiki ngakumbi. bendi Enkosi . Andizange ndikholelwe ukuba uyandifuna-nerdy, dowdy, mna. Oo mbulelo wandinyanzela ukuba ndingene kwiminyaka emithathu yokuthukwa, ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwesondo.
Waqhawula isivumelwano sethu kwiinyanga ezintathu ngaphambi komtshato; Ingcaciso yakhe kuphela kukuba wayengenakundithemba ukuba ndithobele ngokufanelekileyo. Ndandinenjongo, ndingafuni, ndandinayo zange athobele kuye kwiinyanga nje ezidlulileyo, kwaye ngenxa yoko ngekhe andinike igama lokuba ngumfazi. Kwinkcubeko yenkcubeko esivela kuyo, ndandenze isono esinzulu xa ndathi kuye ngekhe aphinde andiphathe kakubi, kwaye ngokokubona kwabahlobo bam abaninzi kunye neenkokheli, bendifanele ukulahlwa.
Ke, phezolo, xa ndabona uChristian Grey ebetha u-Anastasia Steele ngokubonisa ukukhathazeka emva kwakhe weba imoto yakhe wayithengisa phantsi kwakhe , yonke into engaphakathi kwam iqunjelwe kuba bendikhe ndakhona. Ndiye sele UAnastasia Steele. Ndikhutshiwe ezinyaweni zam yinto endandikholelwa ukuba yiyo-kodwa yayingeyiyo-imiqondiso emikhulu yothando.
Kukho, kwaye kufuneka iqhubeke ikhona, inki eninzi echithwe ngaphezulu kwempiliso engafanelekanga nengachanekanga ye-BDSM / kink kwiincwadi nakwifilimu. Njengelungu loluntu lwe-BDSM, loo nxalenye yam yayothukile kwaye iguliswa yinto esaziswa ngayo.
Kodwa ndathi ndakuhlala kwibala lezemidlalo ndaze ndazibonela umboniso bhanyabhanya kunye namanye amabhinqa alikhulu, ndothuswa nangakumbi kukuba sonke sasilungiselelwa ukuxhatshazwa.
Ngandlela thile, ifilimu luphuculo ngaphezu kweencwadi kuba isusa izigcawu zokudlwengula, kodwa ngandlela thile, olo phuculo lwenza mandundu ngakumbi ngenxa yokuba ukucaca Ukuphathwa gadalala kuye kwanyamalala. Into ebuyiselweyo inokuba yingozi nangakumbi, kuba kulula ukuphikisa ukuba le nto siyiboniswayo ayisihlukumezi- yeyothando. Xa efika kwindawo asebenza kuyo emva kokudibana naye kube kanye kwaye engazi nto ngaye ngaphandle kwegama lakhe kunye nesikolo afunda kuso, ayothusi into yokuba wamqhekeza, kumnandi ukuba abonakale ngathi unomdla kuye. Xa evuka ebhedini yomntu wasemzini enxibe iimpahla angazinxibanga, ayikuko ukwaphula ngokucacileyo imida, ujonge nje. Xa yena (mhlawumbi eqhula? Ibali belingacacanga kum) uyala isicelo sakhe sokuba athobele, ayikhathazi into yokuba eqhekeza indlu yakhe, ibonisa kuphela ukuba umnqwenela kangakanani-ngapha koko, wazisa iwayini.
Into endiyifumene yothusa ngayo Amathunzi angamashumi amahlanu nantlanu kagreyi yayikukungqubana phakathi kwamava am njengexhoba lokuxhatshazwa kunye nendlela ethile ababukeli ababelungiselelwe ngayo ukuba bamkele ubuKristu njengenkokeli yothando.
Umxhaphazi wam kunye nam sobabini sayifunda Ngorhatya uthotho xa sasiqala ukuthandana, kwaye wakhawuleza wanamathela kubo. Yabona? Uye wandiqinisekisa. Sifana nje noEdward noBella. Yindlela endiziva ngayo ngawe. Xa ndiqala ukucwangcisa umtshato, wavuma uJane Austen umxholo wam wokhetho kuba, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, yayifana yabo umtshato. Xa wayendihlukanisa nabahlobo bam, wayezama nje ukundikhathalela. Wayendikhusela, njengo-Edward wayefuna ukukhusela uBella kuYakobi.
Wayefuna nokuba yeyona nto iphambili kum. Yile ndlela ndiyiyo. Kuya kufuneka uyamkele lento malunga nam, utshilo. Undinike isigwebo esifana neso uChristian asinika uAna-yamkele isidingo sam esibuhlungu sokulimaza abantu kuba ndonzakele ndisengumntwana, okanye ndishiya, kuba yiyo le. Yiyo yonke into oza kuyifumana. Iya kuba yindlela yena uyayifuna, kanye ngale ndlela afuna ngayo, okanye ayizukuba yinto kwaphela.
Amathunzi angamashumi amahlanu nantlanu kagreyi Yenza kubaphulaphuli bayo into eyenziwa ngumKristu kuAna kunye nento endiyenzileyo kum umdlwenguli: icwangcisa ngokupheleleyo izinto esizilindeleyo kunye noko sikholelwa ukuba kwamkelekile. Umkristu uyenza icace kuAna nakuthi ukuba ungumntu othanda izinto zabantu abalawulayo, olawulayo, onobundlobongela nonobundlongondlongo, kwaye asivumelekanga ukuba silindele enye into kuye. Ke, ngamaxesha anqabileyo xa emnandi ngokwenyani (kunye nam nditye kwaye undisele amakhadi ecaleni kwe-ibuprofen kunye nejusi yeorenji, kunye ne-champagne ekhishwe ngaphandle kweekomityi zeti) abaphulaphuli bucala ngasekhohlo kwaye aww . Kuwo nawuphi na omnye umxholo, ezo zinto ziya kuba mnandi, kwaye zinokuthandeka. Kodwa, nini Ngwevu yamaKristu iyayenza, ithatha intsingiselo entsha ngenxa yokuba uAna-kunye nabaphulaphuli-bekhona lubabalo Ngeemvuthuluka zesiqhelo ngokungathi kufanelekile ukuba sinombulelo ngazo.
Ukuboniswa kuka-Dakota Johnsons ka-Ana wenza into u-E. L. James's version yakhe ayiphumeleli ncam: uyaziqinisekisa. Ukrelekrele, intwana ye-smart-aleck. Uyathetha, uphindaphinde. Okwenza konke kube nzima ngakumbi xa endaweni yokuba uthi uh, hayi, kunjalo hayi Ukundibetha — NDIKUTSHAYELE UKUTSHAYA IMOTO YAM uziphethe kakuhle kwaye uyasamkela isohlwayo sokuqengqeleka ngamehlo kuye. Abaphulaphuli bamncoma xa esusa isandla sakhe esinqeni sakhe kwaye bemkhumbuza ukuba ufuna i intlanganiso yeshishini . Sasi uchukumisekile Amaxesha ambalwa ephakama kuye — emangalisiwe.
Kwaye oko kufanele kusikhathaze, kuba uAna akenzi nanye into ekufuneka siyithathele ingqalelo. Xa exelela umKristu into ayifunayo nengayifuniyo, ungumntu oqhelekileyo obeka ulwalamano oluqhelekileyo kunye nokubeka ulindelo oluqhelekileyo. Usebenza njengaye nawuphi na umntu omdala osempilweni; kodwa kulungelelwaniso lobudlelwane bakhe nomKristu, ezo mpendulo ziqhelekileyo ziba zizenzo zokudelela.
Konke oku kwenzekayo kumanqanaba okuqala alo naluphi na ulwalamano olunobundlobongela, ngakumbi nomxhaphazi osebenzisa i-BDSM ukufihla iinjongo zakhe. Amaxhoba ayalelwa ngabaxhaphazi bawo ukuba akujonge ukuxhatshazwa njengento eqhelekileyo, kunye nokuqhelekileyo njenge okhethekileyo . Mna noAnastasia Steele ukhaliphile Nangaliphi na ixesha besinobuganga bokumelana naye, kwaye uChristian nomxhaphazi wam bebenjalo imangalisa ngokungummangaliso ngokuba namaxesha amafutshane okuziphatha okuqhelekileyo komntu.
Ingozi kwi Amathunzi angamashumi amahlanu nantlanu kagreyi kukuba yenza into eyenziwa ngumxhaphazi: isenza ukuba sicinge ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kuyinto eqhelekileyo.
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