Ingcingane ekulu kakhulu ifumene ingqalelo engathandekiyo njengoko iqhubeka nomoya. Nangona kunjalo, ngoku ukuba i-CBS iyalele uthotho lwe-spin-off olujolise kubomi buka-Sheldon Cooper omncinci, lixesha lokwenyani lokuthetha ngenye yezona mpazamo zinkulu zalo mboniso: ukungazi ngokupheleleyo i-asexuality njengesazisi kunye nendlela yokujongana nayo.
Njengomntu o-asexual ngokwam, ndiyakholelwa ukuba uSheldon Cooper ujonga zonke iibhokisi eziphambili ze-asexuality, nangona ababhali balo mboniso benyanzelisa ukuba akanguye. Ngexesha le-6, isiqendu 1, uSheldon uthi, ndiyayifumana eyona mbono ye-coitus ehlekisayo kunye nokubeka kude. Emva kwexesha, kwisiqendu 23, uthi ku-Amy,… phambi kokuba ndidibane nawe, andizange ndibenomdla wokuba sondelelene naye nabani na. Ukusuka kwezi zicaphulo zodwa kukodwa kucacile ukuba uSheldon ngokungathathi hlangothi kwezesondo, nokuba akanamdla okanye unokubuyela umva.
Abahlobo baka Sheldon bahlala bethetha kwaye besenza izinto ezonakalisa iimvakalelo zakhe ngesondo. Ngexesha lesithandathu, isiqendu sesi-2, uLeonard ubuza uSldon ukuba ngaba ekugqibeleni uba yindoda enegazi elibomvu elineminqweno yesini, okuthetha ukuba ubungqingili a) kukungaqheleki okanye sisiphene, b) into enokunyangeka kwaye ihambe nexesha kwaye c) into ethintela ubudoda bendoda.
U-Amy, intombi kaSheldon, uhlala ebonisa uSheldon ukuba unqwenela ngakumbi kuye nangokwesondo. Emva kwakhe ngaphambi kokuba ndidibane nawe uvuma isono, umbuza ke ngoku? ngokungathi ulindele ukuba ngokudibana naye, ubume bakhe bobuchwephesha butshintshile ngomlingo. Oku komeleza ubuxoki bokuba i-asexuality inokuphiliswa ngumntu othile. (Kwirekhodi, impendulo yakhe ibiyiyo Kwaye ngoku? Ngoba ukudibana no-Amy akutshintshanga.)
Ngapha koko, i-cast isoloko imbekisa uSheldon malunga nokuba uya kuhlala esondelelene no-Amy. Ngokucacileyo ababhali balo mboniso babona isondo njengokuphela komthombo wolwalamano kubudlelwane. Kwisiqendu esinye, wachaza ngokuthobekileyo u-Amy ukuba [kuye] into [abanayo] isondele kakhulu, eyayingumzuzu omnandi kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ayizenzeli ubumdaka ababhali ababenzileyo.
Ukwabelana ngesondo ngabantu abatshatileyo yinto esoloko ijongwa gwenxa kwimithombo yeendaba. Abalinganiswa ababonisa njenge-asexual ngokubanzi babhalwa njengeerobhothi kwaye abanakho ukuqonda iimvakalelo zomntu eziqhelekileyo (Jonga kwakhona: ICastiel evela Ngaphezulu kunye noGqirha ovela Ugqirha Ngubani ). Oku kuqinisa umbono olonakalisayo wokuba isini sinxibelelene ngokungenakwahlulwa nothando kunye nobudlelwane bezothando, kwaye ukwahlula kubo kuya kuba yinto engaqhelekanga kwaye ingasebenzi. Ngapha koko iqhubela phambili nengcinga ephosakeleyo yokuba i-asexuality kunye ne-aromaticism yinto enye; ukuba abantu abangenamdla kwisini ngokwemvelo abakwazi ukuthatha inxaxheba ekusebenzeni ubudlelwane bezothando okanye baxabise abantu abanomtsalane. Endaweni yokuba uSheldon avume oku ngaye, isetyenziswa njenge-punchline, enye nje ye-quirks ezothusayo zika-Sheldon, kwaye iphathwe njengempawu yesifo esikhulu kubuntu.
Abathandi bomboniso bayakuphikisa oko . Kodwa isigqibo somntu sokulala ngesondo asinampembelelo kwi-asexual identity. Uninzi lwabantu abathandana nabantu abathandanayo bagqiba ekubeni babelane ngesondo ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Umzimba womntu ongu-asexual usasebenza ngendlela efanayo kwaye uyakwazi ukubandakanyeka-kwaye wonwabele-ngesondo ukuba ukhetha njalo. Isikhalo esikude kodwa wakonwabela ukumanga uAmy! inokuviwa kwakhona, kodwa ukutsala umdla ngokwesondo kunye nokwenyama zizinto ezimbini ezahlukileyo kakhulu. Abantu abohlukeneyo banokufumana inkanuko yesini kunye neyokwenyama ngokwahlukeneyo nakumanqanaba ahlukeneyo.
Ke kujongeka njani ukubonakaliswa okuhle kwe-asexual? Ubungqingili bomlinganiswa we-ace akufuneki ibe yeyona nto kugxilwe kuyo kwibali labo. Umntu we-asexual unokuba kulwalamano oluhle, olomeleleyo lothando-kunye okanye ngaphandle kwesondo-okanye hayi. Umzekelo othandekayo (ngokunokwenzeka kuphela Umzekelo olungileyo kumajelo eendaba aqhelekileyo) olungileyo, umlinganiso we-aro / ace we-Ace Todd ovela UBoJack Horseman . Isazisi sakhe sityhilwa kuphela ngexesha lesithathu, ngaphambi kokuba abe ngumlinganiswa obalaseleyo kumboniso wezinye izizathu.
Ewe, isimilo sikaSheldon sivulekele ukutolikwa, kunye nababhali be Inkqubo ye- Ithiyori enkulu yeBang Bang mhlawumbi azigcini naziphi na iinjongo ezinobungozi ngokubhekisele kuluntu lwase-asexual. Nangona kunjalo, abaqulunqi bomboniso banokuzuza ngokuqinisekileyo ekubeni nobunzima bokucinga malunga nokuba ngowuphi umonakalo onokuvela ekusebenziseni eli qonga ukufundisa ngokuqinisekileyo abantu malunga nesazisi esele sibonakalisiwe komnye wabalinganiswa babo. Kuya kuba yinyani ngakumbi kumlinganiswa kaSheldon ukuba amnike isazisi sokwenyani, esinyanisekileyo kwaye ayihloniphe loo nto kunokuba aqhubeke nokumbhalela ekungathandini, ukunyanzelwa, nokuba nolwalamano olusenyongweni noAmy.
Inxalenye enkulu enjalo yesizathu sokuba abantu bathande kakhulu umlinganiswa kaSheldon sisimo sakhe sengqondo malunga nokwabelana ngesondo. Kuya kufuneka uzibuze- ukuba le nxalenye yesazisi sakhe yachithwa, ngaba uya kuba ngumlinganiswa ofanele ukujongwa? Ukuba ewe, i-asexual Sheldon ayinakulimaza umboniso, kwaye iya kuba luncedo kuluntu. Ukuba hayi, umlinganiswa osekwe kwinto engenanto ngaphandle kokumela kakubi uluntu ngokuqinisekileyo awudingi mboniso wakhe.
Uluntu lwe-asexuals, ephepheni, lumalunga ne-1% kuphela yabemi behlabathi, kodwa siyahamba kwixesha apho ukuqaphela kunye nokumela izazisi ngokufanelekileyo kubalulekile. Ngelishwa, lo mboniso mtsha uziva ngathi linyathelo elikhulu kude nokuzibophelela eluntwini ukwamkela ubungqingili njengobungqina obuchanekileyo.
UChloé Osmond ngumfazi oneminyaka eli-19 ubudala wase-South African womxn, kwaye unqwenela ukuba ngumvelisi weendaba kwi-intanethi, okwangoku usebenzisa ukuzimisela okupheleleyo kokufumana isidanga sobuntatheli. Kwinqaku elinxulumene noko, uyingcali ekusebenzeni kubuthongo obuncinci, inikwe kuphela ii-memes kunye neicookies. Mfumane kwi-Twitter (@ChloeJeanOsmond) okanye kwiYouTube ( youtube.com/c/ChloeTheJean ).
-UMary Sue unemigaqo-nkqubo engqongqo yokuphawula engavumiyo, kodwa ayikhawulelwanga, ukuthukwa nabani na , Intiyo nentetho egonyamelayo. —
