Hayi, Ababhali beNzululwazi yezeMfazwe: Bayeke ngeeTropiki

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Ndibhalile iitoni ezilishumi elinambini kwezi ntsuku zimbalwa zidlulileyo kwiintsomi zamabali asemkhosini, kwaye ndiye ndafumanisa ukuba iimvakalelo zam malunga noku zehlela kwinto enye:

Yiyeke. Yiyeke nje.

Ngoku, ndiyazi ukuba ubukhulu becala akulunganga. Iitrope azikho, ngaphakathi ngokwazo, into embi. Iitrope zinokwenza ukuba ibali lisebenze. Ziindlela ezinxitywe kakuhle ezinika umfundi i-ankile, uluvo lokuba bayalazi eli bali, ukuba bangaya phambili bazibhaptize ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ukuba bazakulahleka kokhula. Kukho izizathu ezifanelekileyo zokusebenzisa iitropu, kwaye nokuba azikho, kunzima ukuziphepha ngokupheleleyo, kuba umntu uza kubona enye apho ungakhange ujonge khona.

Kwaye ndibhala intsomi yesayensi yezomkhosi, okanye ispera opera, okanye isepha opera, okanye into elolo hlobo. Ke: yay, tropes! Ndifumene izixa zeNgcali eziSebenzayo ezingakwaziyo ukuLawula uBomi bazo boBuntu, abantu abaDakayo endaweni yokujongana neengxaki zabo, kunye nabantu abachaza ngokuBalaseleyo xa bePhelelwe ngumsindo. (Ndiyayithanda le yokugqibela. Ndinguye soze Chaza xa ndicaphuka.)

Kodwa iitrope zabafazi bezomkhosi… hm. Rhoqo ezi zinto zibonakala ngathi zinokuthanani neetropiki ze kodwa emkhosini, nokuba kulula okanye akunjalo ukuba umlinganiswa obhinqileyo abunjwe ngendlela eza kubavumela ukuba balingane. Ke: Inenekazi elomeleleyo, elinamandla (okanye elinamandla), isithuko, isithuko, faka uburheletyo njenge Kuyimfuneko, kodwa qiniseka ukuba akazibopheleli nakubani na, kuba i-ew, iintsholongwane zamantombazana.

Ngaba oko kungenabulungisa kum? Ndivakalelwa kukuba akulunganga. Ndingacinga ngemizekelo eyoyikisayo engahambi i-Trope epheleleyo kunye nabalinganiswa babo basetyhini. Thatha iVasquez, ukusuka Abaphambukeli (ewe, ndikhetha i-movie eneminyaka engama-30 apha). Ngandlela thile, uyi-Super Tropish Military Woman: u-uber-ofanelekileyo, ongesabi, ophambeneyo njengesihogo, akaze athandabuze, azincame ngaphandle kwengcinga yesibini. Kodwa kwangaxeshanye… bayigcwalisile isithandwa sakhe . (Okanye umhlobo-mhlobo, okanye nantoni na awayeyiyo, kodwa kucacile ukuba babesondele.) Ndiyamthanda uDrake, okanye ubuncinci amagqabantshintshi amafutshane esinawo ngaye -kodwa krelekrele .

Ngeyidlale njani le nto ukuba isini besitshintshiwe? Banokuthi bayenze isebenze. Yifilimu ebhalwe ngokungaqhelekanga, ngakumbi ngokwembono yomlinganiswa. Kodwa ngaba omnye umntu ukhuthazekile emfazweni westoic / impindezelo enobundlobongela ngokudakumba kokufa komfazi? Kuyadika . Ugqithisile. (Mhlawumbi ayenziwanga kangako into ngelo xesha. Iyandenza ndizibuze ukuba ingaba yonke into engayekeleliyo umfazi-ukusukela oko iyindlela yokuqinisekisa abaphulaphuli beencwadi kunye neemovie ngokufanayo ukuba zilungile, asizukuchitha iitropu zakho kakhulu, unga phumla. Kwaye ndikuthetha oku njengomntu onencwadi yakhe yokuqala efrijini umama womfana kwiphepha 5, ke andikho kwimeko yokuphosa amatye e-trope.)

Kodwa makhe sithethe malunga nentombazana eyintsholongwane, kuba ukuba ujonga iintlobo zobuntu ezenza ukuba umntu obhinqileyo abe yintombazana nakwitrope, ungaphambuka kakhulu kwaye ufumane isoldati eliyindoda nelikholisayo elibhalwe kakuhle kwenye indawo elamkele konke yezo mpawu. Trope-wise, amajoni angamadoda ayenjalo kuvunyelwe ukuba nezibophelelo zovakalelo, ukugcina umntu omnye ngeendleko zabo bonke abanye ngenxa yokuba ngumntu abamthandayo, ukwenza ukhetho olubi ngenxa yokuphelelwa lithemba, ukujija izizathu zobudenge, zokuzingca kwaye ube ngamagorha ukuphela kwebali. Amajoni angamadoda afikelela ekubeni ngabantu abagqibeleleyo, abafezekiswe ngokupheleleyo kwaye asamkelwa njengamajoni. Amajoni amabhinqa angcono abe ngabantu abomeleleyo, kuba kungenjalo, wow, akufuneki bahlale ngaphandle emfazweni?

Yinto yesiqhelo yokubamba-22: Yiba ngowasetyhini, kodwa ubuye ube lukhuni, kwaye hayi, besingathethi njalo, phuma kwibhokisi yethu yesanti. Yiyo le nto ndiziva Yiyeke ngayo.

Ingxaki ayizizo iitrope zabafazi bezomkhosi. Iitrope zabafazi basemkhosini zilungile. (Sukundenza ndiqale kubafazi abasebenza njengembudane yamadoda. Ndikhe ndayikrokrela loo nto ngaphambili, kwaye ndiya kuphinda. TL; DR: Libinzana elingenantsingiselo kwaye musa ukuchitha ixesha lam ngalo.) Ingxaki kuxa zisetyenziselwa ukufaka abalinganiswa ababhinqileyo kwimikhosi yasemkhosini egxile kubungqongqo bobudoda. Ukuba uqala ngokucinga ukuba iyunithi yasemkhosini ifuna ukuba liqela lama-stoic, iingcali ze-MMA ezinesilumko, awuyi kuba noluhlu oluninzi oza kusebenza nalo. Yongeza kule ngxaki yeentsholongwane zeentombazana, kwaye… kulungile, ubambekile.

Ukuphazamisa i-trope Woman Woman trope yakho, kuya kufuneka uyitshitshisile itrope yakho yasemkhosini. Oko kuthetha ukuphanzisa i-tropu yakho yamaMkhosi oMkhosi, kwaye mhlawumbi neMan Trope yakho ngokubanzi.

Umngcipheko ngeentlobo zazo zonke iintlobo kukuba zimele iseti encinci yamava omntu. Banokwenza amabali okwakha amabali abalulekileyo, kodwa njengombhali, ukuba uyonqena, kuya kuba njengoDrake ofuna ukuziphindezela kuVasquez: iyinyani ngokwaneleyo, kodwa ekugqibeleni ayisiyiyo yonke loo nto inomdla.

Utat'omkhulu wam wayeyinkwenkwana eneenkwenkwezi ezine. Undifundise ukutshica imbewu yevatala, kwaye wayeyithanda ikati yethu kangangokuba samshiya nayo ihlobo lonke. Utatomkhulu wam ongumama wayeyinjengele yomkhosi womoya. Wayengumlingo onobuchule, kwaye wandifundisa iindlela ezininzi zamakhadi (kwaye wandifungisa ngokufihlakeleyo-uxolo!). Undifundise ukudlala i-blackjack, wayisusa emazantsi enqanawa ukuze ndibethe umntakwethu.

Iitrope nangona kunjalo, akukho majoni aqhelekileyo, eyindoda okanye eyasetyhini. Ukuba uza kudibanisa iitropu zakho, kuya kufuneka ulahle umbono ongacacanga kuwo omabini amacala, okanye udibanisa izinto ezinkulu, ezinobunzima kunye. Ngaba zikhona iziza eziyifunayo? Ngokuqinisekileyo. Ngaba bakhona ababhali phaya abanokuthi bahlukane nayo? Ngokuqinisekileyo.

Kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi? Yiyeke nje.


U-Elizabeth Bonesteel waqala ukwenza amabali eneminyaka emihlanu, ukuzama ukulwa nokulala. Enkosi kunxibelelwano losapho kwinkqubo yendawo, ebefunda iinyani zesayensi ukusukela ebuntwaneni, kwaye ungumbhali wayo
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