Iimpawu zokuqala: Ewe, andikaze ndinike irediyo yam icala-iliso phantse kwimizuzu emine eqinileyo ngaphambili.
Intombazana etyunyuziweyo yiDolophu enkulu encinci yingoma enzima ukuthetha ngayo. Izisa imibuzo emininzi malunga nokuthandana kwabantu besini esinye, ukuthanda abantu abathandana besisini esinye, i-heteronormativity, kwaye kanye le nto intombazana ityumkileyo. Kwaye kum, eyona nto imangalisayo kuko konke kukuba ekugqibeleni sibe nengoma eqhelekileyo kunomathotholo apho umfazi ecula ngomphefumlo ndifuna ukunambitha imilebe yakhe. Kuyavunywa, ilandelwa kwangoko yi-sucker-punch 'kuba banambitha njengawe, kodwa ndiza kufika kuloo nto.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, i-Girl Crush ibhekiselele kumfazi onomona ngentombi yakhe yangaphambili. Uye wagqithisa kangangokuba ufuna kuba lo mfazi mtsha. Leyo yeyona nto icace gca amagama kwaye ikwayile Nto inkulu ethi ngokwabo le ngoma. Kwangelo xesha, njengaye nawuphi na uprofesa olungileyo wesiNgesi oza kukuxelela, isicatshulwa sinokuthetha lukhulu kunaleyo abacwangcisi bayo ababenenjongo yayo. Kum, akunakwenzeka ukuba umamele i-Girl Crush ungakhange uve iindlebe ezicacileyo zesitayile sothando esivela kumculi oya kumfazi athetha ngaye.
Imvumi ekhokelayo uKaren Fairchild ayivakali ngathi lilungisiwe ixesha elidlulileyo kule ngoma. Endaweni yokuba ilizwi lakhe libe lusizi kwaye linothando. Mhlawumbi uthando lukhona kufanelekile ukujoliswa kwindoda, kodwa xa umntu ecula ngothando ndifuna ukunambitha imilebe yakhe, ndifuna umlingo wakhe, kwaye andinako ukumkhupha engqondweni yam kunzima ukungagqibi kwelokuba le ntombazana ityumkile .
Ke, ngekhe kuthathe utshintsho oluninzi ukwenza i-Girl Crush ibe yingoma entle yesini okanye isini. Sekunjalo, kunjalo Ngaba Thatha utshintsho. Ngelixa ndifumana uninzi lwamagama njengesihogo, uninzi lwazo luphela kunye neSitampu sokuLunga. Njengoko besenditshilo ngaphambilana, ndifuna ukungcamla imilebe yakhe eya ’kuba banambitha njengawe. Ufuna umlingo wakhe uchukumise ’kuba mhlawumbi emva koko / Uya kundifuna kakhulu. I-Fairchild ayinakuyeka ukucinga ngalo mfazi, kodwa kuphela ngenxa yokudibana kwakhe ne-Fairchild's ex.
Okanye ngaba ngokwenene ibali elipheleleyo? Enye indlela yokufunda le ngoma ingowasetyhini ohlangabezana nomtsalane wesini esifanayo kwaye khange akwazi ukuyamkela okwangoku. Kuyaqondakala ukuba umntu unokufuna ukufana nomnye umntu ukuze aphumelele umntu amthandayo. Ayenzi ngqondo kangako into yokufuna ukwenza into kunye nomntu othandana naye othandana naye ngokumanga okwesibini. Kutheni ungabi nomgca nje onqwenela ukuba anganga indoda ayithandayo ngokuthe ngqo?
Izisa umbuzo wokuba intombazana ityumke yintoni kanye kanye. Imelwe kukuba xa umntu obhinqileyo ewonga omnye umfazi kakhulu kangangokuba iimvakalelo zinamandla njengokuqhekeka kwezothando, ngaphandle kwazo naziphi na iimvakalelo zokwenene okanye zesondo ngasemva kwayo. Ukusebenza nangona kunjalo, kuhlala kungabikho homo yabafazi abathe tye. Yindlela yokuthetha ngokukhuselekileyo ndicinga ukuba loo mfazi mhle kakhulu / unomdla / unamabele amangalisayo ngaphandle kokufuna ukubuza ngesini sakhe. Andithi abantu abathe tye abanakuqaphela ukuba abantu besini esifanayo banomtsalane. Kungenxa yokuba kwinkcubeko isagcwele abantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye, uninzi luziva ludinga ukucacisa ngokuthe rhoqo ukuba zichanekile kangakanani amabinzana afana nentombazana etyumkileyo.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuzikhusela lide linyathelo kwindlela yokuphuma. Andilo gay; Ndizithanda kakhulu iimpahla ezikwiikhathalogu eziyimfihlo zaseVictoria. Ndiyazi ukuba le yinto yamantombazana onke eleleyo, kodwa kufuneka sidlale ibhotile yokujikeleza. Ngu-a iqela umdlalo, akunjalo? Andikwazi ukuyeka ukucinga ngaye nokuba mhle kanjani. Ndimele ndibenomona ngokwenene… akunjalo?
Enye ingxaki yengoma kukuba konke kubhekiswe kuwe. Into ebangela umdla kukuba, oko kuthetha ukuba unokukhetha ukukholelwa ukuba imvumi iyangxama kwaye ithethe nomnye, owesithathu, umfazi. Ngelishwa, ividiyo yomculo iyayicacisa into yokuba idolophu encinci inenjongo yokuba umphulaphuli abe yindoda. Mhlawumbi le ngoma kufanele ukuba ibe sentloko ye-Fairchild, kodwa kusamangalisa ukucinga ukuba kule ndoda Uyayazi laa mfazi uhamba naye? mna nyhani ndinqwenela ukumanga. Kwakhona, ayisiyondawo kanye ngokuphumelela umntu ngaphaya.
Kwelinye icala, ngaba le ngoma ingabakho ngaphandle kwengxelo yayo ebanzi?
Njengokuba kunjalo, izikhululo zikanomathotholo bezikho ukufumana izikhalazo ngokudlala ingoma yesini kunye nokutyhala i-ajenda yesini . Ngaba i-Girl Crush ingaze ilifumane ixesha lomoya ukuba ibingomfazi othandana nomnye umfazi? Nditsho naphakathi kwabalandeli abacinga ukuba bubudenge ukuba i-Girl Crush ibe yingxabano, isikhalazo esiyintloko sibonakala ngathi yingoma enjalo ngokucacileyo malunga nabantu abathe tye.
Ngokubanzi, i-Girl Crush yenye ingoma enokuthi ijoyine uluhlu lwoluhlu lokudlala olukufutshane ngokwaneleyo. Iyakulingana ngqo noKaty Perry's Ndamanga Intombazana, Ndiyaphuma, Yiyeke, nayo nayiphi na ingoma yothando eyakha yaculwa kuwe. Mhlawumbi iyakwenza okuhle apho, njengezinye iingoma ezininzi ezinazo. Mhlawumbi Girl Crush uya intshi abanye abantu phambili ekubeni ngaphantsi homophobic. Mhlawumbi inokude ikhuthaze abantu ukuba baphume. Ndingavuya ukuba iyenzeka.
Kwangelo xesha, ndidiniwe kukuba kufuneka ndidlale ngathi yonke into endiyiva kunomathotholo. Ngu 2015. Ukutshata kwabantu besini esinye kusemthethweni kumazwe angamashumi amabini. Ngaba abanako ukusiva ngaphezulu kukaMary Lambert weengoma malunga nokucacileyo ukuba U-queer kunye nothando, sele?
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