Inkululeko Kwilungelo: Ndifunde Njani Ukwamkela Ukujongelwa Kwam kuLena Dunham

Ebomini bam bokubukela abafazi abamhlophe benesizathu sokuzithethelela, akukho namnye oye wafikelela kwinqanaba lokuphambuka kwamehlo ngendlela uLena Dunham anayo. Esi sizukulwana sinye singenangxaki ukuphosa usana ngaphandle ngamanzi okuhlamba xa kufikwa kuBritney Spears, Lindsey Lohan, kunye noAmanda Bynes, abaye bahlekisa ngobomi babo bakarhulumente ngenxa yemicimbi yezempilo yengqondo (kunye nokuziphatha okuyingxaki).

Nangona kunjalo, bekusoloko kukho inkampu ekulungeleyo ukuzithethelela kunye nokuxhasa u-Lena Dunham ngenxa yokuba emele ubufazi obufanayo obuqhelekileyo eNew Yorker ubufazi obudumileyo phakathi kwabafazi abamhlophe abafunda nje ukuvukela. Ukungaphumeleli kwakhe njengomlingani kudibana nje nokuncwina kuka-O, uyayenza kwakhona, kunokuba ubizo lokwenyani ngoodade abamhlophe ababhinqileyo.

Le ngxaki ayisiyiyo kuphela uLena Dunham ngokwakhe; yindlela ekuboniswa ngayo luluntu ngokungazi kwakhe njengesiphumo esibuhlungu selungelo. Xa abafazi abanjengoCardi B bephila inyani yabo, njengengxaki njengoko inokuba njalo, inyani yokuba wayengenakho ukufikelela kwimfundo kunye nolwimi ebomini bakhe ayimisi abantu ekubeni bambize ghetto.

Ngaphandle kokuzibeka ethubeni lokuba yingonyama, uDunham ufuna ukukhala xa ebanjwe kulo naluphi na uhlobo lomgangatho. Kungenxa yokuba uDunham luhlobo lomntu olufuna amalungelo amhlophe kwicala labo, ukuya kwinqanaba lokuba baya kulayita ikhandlela lokucela ubulumko kuye rhoqo kwiinyanga ezimbalwa, kodwa baya kuhlekisa ngamanye, abasetyhini abanamalungelo, abazama ukufumana iindlela zokwenza ubufazi sebenzela bona, nangona intshukumo kunqabile ukuba ithathe ixesha lokuba babone njengabantu, kungasathethwa ke njengabafazi abalinganayo abafanele ukufundiswa okanye ukukhuselwa.

Emuva ngo-2017, nini Amantombazana yayiphela, kudliwanondlebe kunye Intatheli yaseHollywood , I-cast yayihamba nembali yomboniso, kwaye ukugxeka okujamelene nomba wobuhlanga, ngokwendalo, kwavela kuqala, kwalandela ubuhlobo:

DUNHAM Izinto zomdyarho zaqhuma kuqala. [Olu luhlu lwalugxekwa ngokuba nomlingisi omhlophe kwaphela.] Ngobusuku besibini esisasazileyo ndandiqala ukudibana nesithandwa sam [imvumi uJack Antonoff]; besingaboni kakuhle. Bendihleli ndisebenzisa ukugxekwa iveki yonke, kwaye ndenze isiqhulo esisisidenge ngokwenene ndilungile ukuphinda ngoku kuba bendi f-in '25. Ndathi, Akukho mntu uyakundibiza ngokuba ndinobuhlanga Ndiyazi ukuba ndifuna kangakanani u-Drake. Wathi, Sukuyithetha loo nto esidlangalaleni; lonto ayizukunceda. Khange ndiyifumane. Ndandifana, ndinabahlobo abathathu abamhlophe abacaphukisayo, kwaye ndenza umboniso weTV ngayo.

IKONNER bendisazi [ukungabikho kweeyantlukwano] ingangumba, kodwa andikhange ndicinge ukuba ukugxekwa kungabakwinqanaba ebekulo ...

DUNHAM… Okanye ukuba incoko malunga nobuhlanga iya kujika ibe yingxoxo malunga nobuhlanga.

I-KONNER Kodwa ngelo xesha, sasigxile kakhulu kumzabalazo wabasetyhini kunye nenyani yokuba sasiza kufumana abafazi abane kwiTV.

IDUNHAM Sasinabafazi abane bokwenyani ababengadumanga. Ndikhumbula uJemima esiya, ndinomntwana nje, kwaye ndinama-boobs amabini ahlukeneyo, kwaye ndinempundu enkulu ngoku kuba ndingu-f- ekuncanciseni ibele kwaye ndiyintombazana eshushu.

IIBLOYS Besisazi ukuba senza into evusa inkanuko, kodwa bendisamangalisiwe [sisigxeko]. Kwakukho izinto ezahluka-hlukeneyo, izityholo zobuhlobo bomtshato [bonke abalingisi abane abakhokelayo banabazali abadumileyo kwezobugcisa nakwimithombo yeendaba, kubandakanya noDunham, ongumama wakhe umfoti ohloniphekileyo], ezingazange zivakale. … Ndicinga ukuba ezinye zazo zazinento yokwenza nento yokuba uLena wayemele isizukulwana esitsha, kwaye oko kungangonwabi ebantwini, ngakumbi kuba wayengumfazi kwaye wayengumntu owayekhululekile ukuba angabi ngumlingisi onqabileyo kaloliwe.

Ewe, isizathu mnyama kwaye ntsundu Abasetyhini babegxeka ubumhlophe balo mboniso kungenxa yokuba… asikhululekanga kuye ekubeni akangomdlali weqonga ohamba kaloliwe? Thina samkele uKumkanikazi uLatifah njengesikhokelo sothando ngaphandle kwe-fat-girl angst kwaye sabonisa uMonique, uAmber Riley, nabanye njengezinto ezinamandla nezikhokelayo?

Ukubiza umboniso wonyulo okanye ukungabikho kokwahluka kuyasebenza xa umsebenzi kaDunham wakhelwe kubutyebi babazali kunye nokufikelela, nto leyo… uyazi ntoni? Ngaba nawe, ntombazana. Ukuba abazali bam bebenokuxhasa umsebenzi wam wokubhala, andizukukhala ngawo.

Ngaba uyambona uWillow noJaden Smith bekhala ngenxa yokufikeleleka ngokunxulumana nabantu ababini ababonakalayo eMhlabeni? Hayi, basebenzise elo lungelo ukuzenzela ubuwena, bohlukane nabazali babo, kwaye bathabathe ubushushu ngenxa yeso sizathu kanye. Bayazi ukuba utata wabo nguWill Smith, kwaye loo nto iya kuhlala iyinto ebomini babo.

UDunham's 2010 directorial bt, Ifanitshala encinci , Ngohlahlo-lwabiwo mali oluyi- $ 65,000, yinto eyamvumela ukuba afumane abacebisi kwaye abe yinkwenkwezi kunye nombhali wayo Amantombazana Ngo-2012. Iminyaka emibini kunye nomsebenzi owawenziwe ngama-cameo wajika waba luluhlu lwe-HBO oluqhubeke amaxesha amathandathu. Thelekisa loo nto noIssa Rae, kabani Ukungaqiniseki kuthathe iminyaka ukuphuma emhlabeni kwaye kwafika emva kokuba uRae enze uthotho lwewebhu Intombazana emnyama ngo-2011, ngokugqitha Kickstarter ezuze i-56,269 yeedola kwiminikelo eyi-1,960.

Oku akuthethi ukuba uDunham akafanelanga impumelelo yakhe. Ngokutsho kwabantu abonwabela umboniso wakhe, Amantombazana yayiyinto eyayithetha nabo, Kwaye ndingayixabisa into yokuba azise i-HPV, ukuba nomlinganiswa afumane ukukhupha isisu kumabonwakude, kwaye ulungile ngokubonisa umzimba wakhe. Oko akuthethi ukuba ungaphezulu kokugxekwa.

Ngaphakathi kwezinye (ikakhulu ezimhlophe) izangqa zabafazi, kukho utyekelo lokunika u-Lena Dunham inkululeko yokusilela njengomntu omhlophe: ukuba neetalente eziphakathi, ukuvuswa kancinci, kunye nokukhuthaza uphawu lokuxhotyiswa olujolise ekuzithembeni kwakhe. Ingxaki kukuba ayisiyo nkqu nebutho eliqhelekileyo eliqhele ukwenziwa nakwabanye abafazi abamhlophe.

Abantu abanangxaki yokutyumza abasetyhini abangcolileyo, nokuba azikaze bazinike iqonga ngendlela uDunham anayo. Ubungangamsha obunika amandla uDunham ukuba abe nguye akakho kuye kuphela, yindlela abantu abamjonga ngayo. Ngesizathu esithile, abantu balungile ngento yokuba, nangona behlala kwisiXeko saseNew York kwaye beyinxalenye yabaphumeleleyo, yena Amantombazana isimilo sasingenabahlobo bangengabo abamhlophe, ngokungathi akukho bantu bebala kuloo brakethi ahlala kuyo.

Xa oko kuzisiwe, abantu baya kukhwaza, Kodwa Zihlobo! Kodwa Isini kunye neSixeko! ngokungathi asinazo ezo zikhalazo emva koko (kwaye irekhodi, Amantombazana ngu Ngaphantsi ezahlukileyo kune Isini kunye neSixeko) .

Kwiveki ephelile, Sika yapapasha iprofayili emangalisayo kaDunham nguAllison P. Davis, eyayigqwesile ngendlela evumela uDunham ukuba abhengeze eyakhe i-bullshit ngokucaphula kunye nezibakala ezimsulwa:

UDunham udwelisa izizathu zenzondo-eneenkcazo zakhe zokuba kutheni le ndlela eyiyo-ngokungathi wayefunda umbongo obhalwe kwingqondo yakhe kwisikolo sebanga: Ukhule enelungelo eNew York, ekhokelele kwinto abantu abayibona njenge imvakalelo yelungelo. Abazali bakhe bangabasebukhosini baseShoho, kwaye wakhuliswa malunga 'nabathile abanesidima,' abamfundisa ukuba angathetha izinto 'ezinokuthi ngoku zilumkise,' ezenza ukuba ahlekise. (Umzekelo: isiqhulo awasenzayo kwipodcast yakhe, Abafazi beYure, malunga nokuba angazange akhuphe isisu kodwa anqwenela ukuba abenaso.) Ugqatso yindawo engaboniyo kuye kuba akazange akhule enokwahluka okuninzi Uyacacisa.

Uluhlu olungaphelelanga lwezinto uDunham aye wacelwa ukuba axolise ngazo: ukulahla ngokungathandekiyo kuMantombazana; ukulahla uDonald Glover njengesihlobo esintsundu seRiphabhlikhi kwisizini emva kokuba efumene ingxaki yokuba nesamente emhlophe yonke; Ukuthi kudliwanondlebe, 'Akukho mntu wayenokundibiza ngokuba ndingumntu onobuhlanga ukuba babesazi ukuba ndifuna ukubamba uDrake kakubi kangakanani; ezibhengeza ukuba 'ubhityile, njengoDetroit'; ubhala isincoko saseNew York esibizwa ngokuba 'Yinja okanye iboyfriend yamaJuda? Umbuzo '; rhoqo uhamba ze; Ukuthumela ifoto yakhe enxibe isikhafu entloko njenge-hijab; etyhola iphephancwadi laseSpain ngokubhabha iifoto zakhe (khange lenze); ukuthelekisa uBill Cosby kunye nokuBulawa kwabantu ngenkohlakalo; ukunika uHorvath umntwana omdaka ekupheleni kwaMantombazana (kunye nokuphosa umntwana owayeyiPuerto Rican kunye neHaiti, hayi isiqingatha sePakistan, njengoko iskripthi sasiyalela); Ukuthelekisa ukufundwa kwe-Izebhele engalunganga kunye nokubethwa ebusweni yindoda ephethe gadalala; Utyhola umdlali we-NFL u-Odell Beckham Jr. ngokungafuni ukulala naye; esithi akayithandi i-India ngenxa yobuhlwempu obubonakalayo; ndicela uxolo kodwa ndingafundi.

Inxalenye yokugqibela iphambili: ndicela uxolo kodwa ndingafundi . Izolo, uDunham ubhale ileta yeendwendwe yakhe Intatheli yaseHollywood , ecela uxolo ngokugxothwa kwakhe ngumlingisi u-Aurora Perrineau, umfazi omnyama otyhola uMurray Miller, umhlobo osenyongweni kaDunham, ngokuhlaselwa ngokwesondo (into eyabangela ukuba uJudd Apatow athi, andiqondi ukuba yile nto ubufuna ukuyenza. Akunjalo, kule mihla nakwesi sizukulwana ingakumbi-le asiyondlela esithetha ngayo ngabafazi).

UDunham uthetha ngendlela ayifaka ngayo ngaphakathi i-ajenda yamadoda kwaye yamkhokelela ekubeni enze ingxelo yakhe ngokuchasene no-Aurora, embiza lo mfazi lixoki:

Umsebenzi wam ngoku kukugrumba laa nxalenye yam ndize ndenze umqolomba omtsha ngaphakathi kwam apho ikhandlela lihlala likhanyisile, lihlala likhanyiswe ngokukhuselekileyo, kwaye likhanyisela udonga emva kwawo apho kubhalwe la magama: Ndiyabona, Aurora. Ndiyakuva, Aurora. Ndiyakholelwa, Aurora.

Esi sithuba sesakho ukuba nenze njengoko nifuna, xa nifuna. Ndiza kuqhubeka ndibambe le ndawo-iya kuhlala ilapha.

Utsho kwileta yeendwendwe ukuba uyazisola, kodwa kum, kuyaqhubeka ukuziva ngathi kukudibana kwakhe okuzixuba kunye nokudibanisa indawo yakhe. Ayiloxanduva luka-Aurora ukuguqula amava akhe abe yindlela yokuba uLena Dunham azi ukuba angaxoki egameni lomntu otyholwa ngokuhlaselwa ngokwesondo. (UDunham ubanga ukuba wayenolwazi lwangaphakathi xa amabango ayephakanyisiwe ngokuchasene noMiller, kodwa ngoku uyavuma ukuba yayiyinto ebubuxoki leyo).

Kufanelekile ukuthi uDunham kufuneka afumane ukuzithemba kunye nokholo afuna ukuba uluntu ngokubanzi lube nalo kuye, kuba uyichithile, kwaye yena, kubo bonke abantu, kufuneka azi ngcono. Ubufazi obumhlophe buvumela uDunham ukuba asebenzise loo nto njengekhaka nangona engafumananga ngokupheleleyo eso sikhundla, kwaye kungenxa yokuba uDunham, nobumhlophe bakhe, ilungelo lakhe, kunye nokuhlekisa kwakhe, ubonakalisa abo babhinqileyo abakumgangatho ophakathi abathandayo kwizizukulwana. Ubufazi obumhlophe abubaniki abafazi abancinci amalungelo afanayo ukuba baphambuke ngendlela abayinika ngayo iDunham kwaye bacele bonke abanye abantu ababhinqileyo abangamhlophe ukuba batyikitye.

Ndiyakwazi ukuvelana noDunham ngeendlela ezininzi-njenge-weirdo, njengombhali, nanjengomntu ofuna ngokunzulu ukuthandwa nokuqondwa. Ndingatsho kwakhona ukuba yinto engenabungozi kwaye engenamveliso ukumhlekisa ngobunzima bakhe, ukugula ngengqondo, kunye nemicimbi yezempilo. Ndizenzile iimpazamo, ndirhuqiwe, kwaye kuye kwafuneka ndifunde, kodwa ndenza njalo ndinolwazi olupheleleyo lokuba ubufazi abuyi kubakho ukundisusa uthuli kwaye ndibuyisele kwisiseko esingabonakaliyo.

Andinayo inkululeko yakhe yokusilela. Uninzi lwabasetyhini abantsundu abenzi njalo, nokuba sele befikelela phi, kwaye okoko nje uDunham eqhubeka nohlobo lwakhe lobufazi lokuphuhliswa okubanjiweyo, sinelungelo lokuthi akanalungelo lokuxolelwa, kuba uzuze ngokupheleleyo ukungathembani kwethu.

(umfanekiso: HBO)