UAdam Wonakalisa Ukukhulelwa, Usikhumbuza ukuba singafumani lwazi lwethu lokuzala ukusuka eFrance yamaxesha aphakathi

Ukuba unokukhulelwa, kwaye unayo i-inkling enokuthi ufune ukuzisa ubomi emhlabeni (okanye esihogweni, nokuba awukwenzi oko), kusenokwenzeka ukuba ukhe wabanjwa ngekrele ekufeni malunga newotshi yakho yendalo kunye nendlela ixesha liyaphela kwaye njani ngokusisiseko uza kutshwabana ube yibhola kwaye ufe ngeli xesha ubetha ama-35. Ngaba ubusazi ukuba yonke loo nyaniso yamkelweyo isekelwe kulwazi olungachanekanga olufunyenwe kwiingxelo zobalo babafazi baseFrance kumaxesha aphakathi?

Kutshanje UAdam Wonakalisa Yonke into episode, UAdam Conover uyayonakalisa into yokuba abafazi baya kuba nexesha elinzima kakhulu lokukhulelwa abantwana abadlulileyo kumashumi amathathu anesihlanu eminyaka, nokuba nokuba nomntwana emva kwamashumi amane kufutshane kuqinisekisa iziphene zokuzalwa. Inyaniso yoyikeka kancinci kunoko.

Ewe, imizimba iyaguga kwaye iyatshintsha, kunjalo, kodwa ukuya kwinqanaba elincinci kunokuba sikhokelwa. UGqirha Jean Twenge, ugqirha wengqondo kunye nombhali Isikhokelo sabasetyhini esingenamonde sokufumana ukukhulelwa , wenza uphando kuphando lwenzala kwaye wafumanisa ukuba akukho mntu ubuza into yokuba lonke ulwazi esinalo malunga nokuzala, kwizifundo njengangoku njengee-2000s, lusekwe kwiirekhodi zobalo lwabantu ezivela kwiminyaka ye-1600. Kwaye yingxaki, utshilo uTwenge. kuba zivela kwixesha eliphambi konyango lokuchuma, amayeza okubulala iintsholongwane, okanye amayeza ale mihla.

UConover wongeza ukuba kungakho naziphi na izizathu zokuba abafazi bengakhulelwa ngelo xesha, kwizifo, ukuya kubayeni babo emfazweni.

Sisebenzisa idatha yale mihla, siyazi ukuba umntu oneminyaka engama-27 ubudala unethuba lama-86% lokukhulelwa kungaphelanga nonyaka. Kwaye umfazi oneminyaka engama-37 ubudala? 82% Ke… ewe, ukuchuma kuyancipha, kancinci , nge iipesenti ezine , hayi umtsi onqamlezileyo sonke sifundiswe ukoyika. Into endiyifumene inomdla kukuba nakowasetyhini okwiminyaka engamashumi amabini, ithuba lokukhulelwa alikho kwiminyaka ye-90. Kusese-86% kuphela, oko kuthetha ukuba nokuba umdala kangakanani, ukukhulelwa akusiso siqinisekiso.

Kwaye kuthiwani malunga ne-40 enkulu kunye noloyiko lokunyuka kweziphene zokuzalwa? Ewe, umngcipheko weziphene zokuzalwa eziphindwe kabini kubantwana abakhulelweyo kwabasetyhini ngaphezulu kwama-40, kodwa loo nto iphindwe kabini isuka kwiipesenti ezi-5 ukuya kwi-1%. Ewe, ngobuchwephesha elo linani eliphindwe kabini. Kodwa linani labakwishumi elivisayo elingakulungelanga uxinzelelo olubekwe kwabasetyhini ukuba bakhulelwe ilungelo lokuyazi ngoku phambi kwesi sitya !

Umngcipheko wokulahleka kwesisu uyanda njengoko umntu esiba mdala. Kulawo angaphantsi kweminyaka engama-35 umngcipheko umalunga ne-10% ngelixa umalunga ne-45% kwabo bangaphezulu kweminyaka engama-40. Nangona kunjalo, ukuphuphuma kwesisu kuxhaphake kakhulu kwabasetyhini ngokubanzi kunokuba kuhlala kuthethwa ngako, kwaye zezona ngxaki zixhaphakileyo nakuphi na ukukhulelwa. Isiqingatha sabo baphulukane nesisu esinye babini ngokulandelelana. Nangona kunjalo, oku akukuthinteli ukukhulelwa okuzayo ngaphaya koko. Wonke umntu nomzimba wonke wohlukile.

Ndisandula ukujika i-38 izolo, kwaye ngelixa ndingenabantwana okwangoku, ndifuna kule minyaka imbalwa izayo. Andizange ndikhathazeke ngokuzala, nangona kunjalo, kuba umama wayenam xa wayeneminyaka engamashumi amane anesine ubudala. Ndinabantakwethu ababini abadala, kwaye kukho umahluko phakathi kweminyaka elishumi elinesihlanu neshumi elinesithandathu phakathi kwethu. Umama wam, ngelo xesha, waphunyelwa sisisu eneminyaka engamashumi amabini, ngaphambi kokuba umntakwethu omdala azalwe, hayi kamva ebomini. Awusoze nje wazi into eyenzekileyo.

Ke, yintoni esiyifundileyo namhlanje? Ukuba ufuna abantwana, ubenabo xa sele ukulungele . Hayi ngaphambili. Unalo ixesha elingakumbi kunokuba ucinga.

(nge Ukuhlekisa kwasekholejini , umfanekiso: iscreencap)